One time I was meeting someone for a second date. I got a seat at a table outside. There’s a fence and a gate between that area and the sidewalk.

I see her walk by. She sees me. She waves. She keeps walking and is gone.

I’m have so many questions. I text her.

Turns out she didn’t know there was a gate in the fence there and thought you had to go like around the long way, but for solid moment I thought she was like aggressively standing me up.

We dated for a few years and are still friends.

1. “Has trouble finding things” hmmm.
2. “Persistent”

that’s a keeper. humour, and no misplaced respect.

Hmmmm… maybe it was neither a red flag nor a green flag. Maybe it was just scientific curiosity. Mouse in a maze type of thing haha

Green flag, letting you make your own mistakes without getting mad

Green flag, she’s down for social experiments

I would say this is definitely not a red flag.

But I’m also not saying it’s green. Probably more green than anything… Maybe a nice seafoam.

The Good is that she wasn’t angry and was being patient. Letting you figure it out. The not great but not bad part of this is that she did nothing to help.

I would have just stepped outside for “some fresh air” and wait for the person to notice me standing next to the entrance. That way I’m helping them, but only a little, they still have to find me. Finding me may be easier than finding the establishment that we agreed to meet at.

The key here is to not go out and call them over. Let them find you. If you call them, it’s kinda difficult to walk the line of, “oh hey, I’m over here” and not cross over into “get over here stupid. I had to come get you because you’re to dumb to find things yourself”… Best play is just to make yourself more obvious.

I wouldn’t say this is a green flag as it is, but it’s definitely not a red one.

I once saw a professor on my way to his class and, since I really abhor small talk, I kept walking just far back enough for him to not notice me until we got to the classroom where he just kept walking straight ahead. I went in and 15 minutes later he arrived saying “I couldn’t find the classroom”. No, it wasn’t the first class.

Legit, I like her immediately. She’s interesting. Enjoy, she may be a keeper!

GREEN. If u don’t date her, I will. But maybe I just have a thing for pranksters.

I think a second date would be needed at least before claiming red or green flag. She sounds interesting, but I have concerns that it could get bad quick…

Hit them with the “how psychopathic do you think I am?” as a first impression.

Doing it is kinda shitty, but I think most people would watch their date for a minute or two and it’s not a big deal imo (especially because we don’t know if they watched him for a full sevenish minutes). Telling you about it could be because they don’t have the white lie filter, because they thought it would break the ice, or because they like to put people on the back foot.

So I guess yellow flag: proceed with caution (I was going to make a joke about yellow lights, but they were all really shitty on second thought in context)

I’d say go for it, but tread carefully.

Sadist, red flag imho.