Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.

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    Damn, people just straight-up don’t care about the content of an image if they see an opportunity to go on a tangent.

    I wonder how ridiculous you have to make the text- paired with a pictograph of a problematic take like the original for this one- before people realize it’s not actually repeating the original sentiment or even saying anything at all

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      You should read the edit.

      Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.

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        Ignoring the issue with jokes doesn’t help anyone.

        Mocking incels doesn’t make them better.

        It feels good though.

        This is reddit behavior.

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    The fact that dating apps allow you to filter by height and not weight literally says it all

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    Dating shouldn’t be monetized. Even sending messages often requires a subscription. You’ll also notice these dating app companies own several products, like the Match Group. They buy up competitors or spam out the same software under different names with a marketing campaign to try to get people to join. Then they restrict features and charge more to maintain their position. That’s without even getting to all the data they collect and sale while also charging you a subscription. Just imagine talking to someone you want to date in real life and having a middle man come up and say, if you want to talk to them you need to give me $20 a month. All the “science” they use to connect people is just bullshit too.

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      If dating apps worked, they wouldn’t really “work” under capitalism - you’d find someone, cancel the subscription and move on.

      The only really exception is if you focus on hookups or polyamory, but het cis women tend to risk a lot more on hookups (at bare minimum pregnancy and side effects related to whatever precautions are being used to prevent it), so they aren’t going to seek them out and they tend to get flooded with low quality messages anyway.

      No matter what your age, race, gender, sex, size, you can always find a man willing to put their dick inside your orifices. Grindr works so well because it’s basically just old school cruising culture with extra frills. Match Group uses it’s monopoly to impose a dating culture that doesn’t really match with how het people form relationships.

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    Most people’s problems are shit profiles and bad swiping.

    Find/take good photos. I used photofeeler to test my photos and it helped.

    Have a decent short bio that has something the girl can bring up. Mine was my hatred of mayo, almost all my matches brought it up as a discussion point. On Bumble it was most often the ice breaker.

    Don’t swipe right on the 8/9/10s that you have zero chance at. If a girl out of your range has a profile that describes you sure swipe right otherwise don’t swipe on girls you have zero shot with. It messes your algorithm up. If you want to fantasize about hot chicks look at porn otherwise be honest about what you bring to the table and swipe in your realistic range. If you’re a 3 a 5 should be your 10.

    Advice from a decent looking (but def not hot) slightly overweight at times person, who got my fair share of dates, some hookups, and some girlfriends from online dating in a smallish dating pool.

    Met my wife randomly through a coworker 🤷‍♂️.

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      Most people’s problems are shit profiles and bad swiping.

      Most people’s problem is they do online dating.

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        When all your friends are in one circle and all are married and you don’t go to bars or the gym it’s better than nothing. I enjoyed it for the most part, definitely got laid more often.

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      In the short stint that I bothered trying to use a dating app I just swiped right on people I was attracted to and seemed compatible based on their bio.

      If I wasn’t physically attracted to them it wouldn’t work anyway so IDK why I’d want to waste my time???

      But yeah I gave up not because of the swiping/algo but because in a few cases people misrepresented themselves or were overly vague in their bios. In one case someone swiped right on me but then changed their mind because the reread my bio (read the fucking bio in the first place people) or in one case we had made plans to hook up and so I kind of got busy and stopped messaging them for a few days, they messaged me annoyed that I was not showering them in consistent attention and disconnected.

      After that I was like, online dating sucks fuck this, and uninstalled.

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    Buddy, the edit doesn’t help. Repeating propaganda or misinformation and saying but this instance is satirical doesn’t help. You’re still just spreading their talking points for them.

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    So what you’re saying is to go to an archery field to find a woman! I’ve been doing it wrong the whole time!

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    So a possible answer is to live as a hermit in the middle of nowhere. And if a woman appears for some reason, she will have no choice but your long bearded, long matted haired, musk scented, disheveled, gaunt self as a possible mate.

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      Ah, the actual ‘last possible mate in the world’ strategy.

      We must procreate for thr human species!

      lol

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    I know it’s a joke, but I feel like to be fair to both genders, each man here should arrows pointing to every woman.

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      The original image, and your extension, are an emergent behavior as a result of The Algorithm - due to “scarcity”, Player B (men) is (are) encouraged to roll the dice as frequently as possible.

      This whole dynamic is real, results in negative interactions for both players, and is intentionally set up by the apps to maintain engagement and extract as much money via pay-to-play advantages as possible. Dating apps are rigged to give men and women bad experiences so they (largely men) become desperate enough to pay $25 a month or whatever to have an unfair advantage.

      The internet (and other players!) likes to hate the players, not the game, and the only “comfort” many young men have is Tate and Co.

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        Dating apps are rigged to give men and women bad experiences so they (largely men) become desperate enough to pay $25 a month or whatever to have an unfair advantage.

        It gets worse, as the engagement mechanic populates the apps with a particular kind of guy who is obnoxiously aggressive, persistent, and convinced that this is a game they can brute force with time/money. So women end up being introduced to a string of guys who believe they’ve “won” a date by “beating” the game while women are left fishing for profiles that don’t look completely gross or insane.

        And that’s before you get into end-users who are straight up escorts or pimps or predators, fully internalizing the idea that site participants are just resources to extract.

        It isn’t merely about giving people a bad experience, but to give them a cheap thrill that keeps them coming back to the apps without ever finding a fulfilling relationship that would render the website superfluous.

        The internet (and other players!) likes to hate the players, not the game, and the only “comfort” many young men have is Tate and Co.

        Tate on one side and Estee Williams on the other. Men are told to treat women like a commodity - interchangeable, disposable, and ultimately hostile to your personal interests - that you rent out when you’ve accrued enough surplus wealth. Women are told to embrace submissiveness, obsess over superficial appearance, and pursue men based entirely on their socio-economic status in pursuit of the same kind of passive incomes that Tate is selling.

        These conservative icons put men and women into an inherent contradictory position, with the idea of two people coming together as collaborators (much less romantic partners) is fully alien. You’re purchasing a man’s income with your looks. He’s purchasing your looks with his hustle-money. You’re both purchasing the other’s status, with an eye towards a higher rung on the ladder. Neither one of sees the other as a life partner.

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          The commodification of our most base needs, such as romantic relationships, is truly troubling. So much unrest because things like food, shelter, and reproduction are paywalled. Makes the population more vulnerable to fascist ideals.

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      with some exceptions… the abnormally skinny man has an unhealthy fixation on fat women, but its not love and anyone will do, and a few on each side are gay, some aren’t interested in anyone at all, some only interested in themselves, etc

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          That’s due to large demographic disparities, in the physical world it works like I said. Also it’s a meme.