• OliveMoon@lemmy.ca
    31·
    9 days ago

    So, I was going out to the Night Clubs in the late 70’s. I am 5’4”, very thin, but have a large “chest”. It’s super busy, and servers can’t keep up. So I head to the bar, as many people did. Standing in line, the guy behind me starts hustling me. I’m justing trying to be polite. Then he starts being aggressive, and I’m trying to get myself out of this situation. His Friend sees what’s going on and says. “Jesus, Mark, just leave her alone”. He says: “It’s not my fault she has big tits”.

    • Foreigner@lemmy.world
      141·
      9 days ago

      Also a large chested 5’5" woman here, this does not surprise me at all. The only way I found peace was cutting my hair really short and going for a more androgynous look. Now people think I’m a teenage boy and leave me the hell alone.

        • Foreigner@lemmy.world
          8·
          9 days ago

          Baggy T-shirts, layers and hoodies do a good job of hiding the girls. Unless they’re paying attention it’s not hard to miss.

        • absentbird@lemmy.world
          3·
          8 days ago

          Yeah. Weirdly chest fat is not a huge gender indicator for a lot of people unless it’s called attention to. I’ve known several trans guys with big chests who pass just fine.

          The biggest indicators imo are hair: haircut, facial hair, and body hair; then voice, then height, and maybe chest/hips/muscles somewhere after that. With a hoodie most people don’t even notice.

  • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
    16·
    9 days ago

    Grew up with the notion that women aren’t funny,

    It made sense because there were no female comedians on TV or movies, then when youtube and online media hit, I realized how wrong I was, and there was (definitely still is) gatekeeping in mass media.

  • orioler25@lemmy.ca
    33·
    9 days ago

    I’ve never been to an open mic where women and queer folks aren’t consistently funnier than men.

    Addendum: cishet men aren’t funny specifically.

          • orioler25@lemmy.ca
            11·
            9 days ago

            Could you more clearly explain how queer men are excluded in “queer folks” but queer women are not? I think you read that with the intent to presume I’m excluding them and didn’t actually analyze the wording.

            • Hexarei@beehaw.org
              3·
              9 days ago

              Not the one responding to you originally, but your wording does directly contrast “queer folk” with men. By saying one group is funnier than the other, you’re inherently creating two separate groups.

              Did you perhaps mean one thing and say another? I can only read your words as putting men into a category apart from queer folk.

              • orioler25@lemmy.ca
                1·
                9 days ago

                Ah I see. I had considered queer folks to include gnc regardless of assigned gender at birth --including queer men – and “women” and “men” as cishet since like, they aren’t queer and cishet women are still funnier than cishet men consistently.