I’ve never wanted kids, it’s just not my thing. I’ve been thinking about getting a vasectomy for quite a while now, and I finally decided to take the next step. I called a clinic, went in for a consultation, and the doctor explained everything thoroughly. My procedure is scheduled for a little over two weeks from today. My family is strongly against it. They believe I’ll change my mind as I get older and end up regretting it.
You cannot know if that feeling will persist. Sorry to nitpick, but young people cannot fathom how their views and perspectives might change as they age. They might not, sure. But usually they do. And 22 is so damn young.
I’m early 30s and my wife is pregnant with our first.
Before I met her 5+ years ago I had no interest in kids, not to the point of considering a vasectomy but I didn’t want kids. I planned to travel and do your typical no responsibility shenanigans. It was clean pretty early on she wanted kids and that really got me thinking what I actually wanted out of life. I’m happy I didn’t end it over kids and I’m super excited to go through this with not only her but a child. The plan is to have more than one and I’m 100% excited for this.
All of that being said, if things went differently, I’d still be happy living a no kids life. My opinion never really changed, I’m almost 99% sure I’ll avoid other peoples kids but I’m also excited for mine.
Congratulation! You’ll be a great dad. :)
Yeah but 22 year olds aren’t just stupid children. Very young adults, but still adults. Perspectives can always change, so with that mentality, never do anything cause you might change your mind later.
If vasectomies were 100% permanent, I might agree more. But 22 is not too young to make a decision like this.
As a young lad, I knew with certainty and after great contemplation how solid my desires were; one of mine was to never have kids, as I know myself well enough that I love my time alone and freedom to do as I pleased without being tied down by children. Other young men can know, if they are given the freedom and space to contemplate their decisions; to examine their thoughts and reasons for wanting to do something before committing to said decision. He’s an adult by law, as long as he has weighed the positives and negatives of this decision…It is his to make.
Nobody is telling him what to do. He explicitly asked for our opinions and that’s what he’s getting.
Yeah, I amended my comment…I get overzealous when it comes to defending personal autonomy and free will.
Better to address the change in desire to have a kid in a decade or two than having to deal both an unwanted pregnancy up to that point.