• aramis87@fedia.io
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    1 day ago

    I saw a post yesterday from some SAHM with two young kids, who’s influencer channel is apparently filled with tradwife shit about supporting your husband in all his works, etc. And she’s crying because her husband wants a divorce, has cut off her credit cards, she doesn’t have any money of her own, doesn’t have any credit of her own, she hasn’t worked in 15 years and has no idea how she’s going to support herself.

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      23 hours ago

      She shouldn’t worry. She’ll get half, and alimony, and child support.
      In my experience the tears are most likely aimed at prepping her followers for her GoFundMe requests.

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        22 hours ago

        The court will order those things to be paid. Her actually getting the money is an entirely different matter.

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        20 hours ago

        That depends where she is. Alimony is rare in Texas, for example. She might get a small amount of spousal support for a few years, but she’s going to need to start a career soon.

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          she better start working, her being influencer meaning she had the means to have nannies, and pretend like she is not financially well off, she just realize her meal ticket(her tradwife influencer lifestyle) is about to come to an end. this is what the people on that reddit said, these people are well off, is just that she came to realize she isnt going to be able to grift anymore.

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        23 hours ago

        If you think that’s not a reason to worry, you haven’t tried to live on a fraction of a salary. You think costs are linear?

        Cohabitation saves a lot of money. Divorce breaks that.

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          No I haven’t tried to live on a fraction of a salary [edit: actually I was a waiter and bartender for years so technically I did live on a fraction of a salary :)…]. But she tried to live on zero salary doing the trad wife method. Did you miss the point of ops post?

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            19 hours ago

            So she shouldn’t worry because… she deserves it for choosing a lifestyle?

            Oh right, I forgot the rule. People who make choices we don’t agree with should have their children suffer. That keeps slipping my mind.

            I don’t agree with the idea that a couple should strictly split responsibilities and not be able to survive without each other, especially along antiquated gender lines. But I’m still going to have empathy for a broken home with children.

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        20 hours ago

        So you’re saying living on half of one salary is functional these days? Most folks I know can’t survive on two full salaries.

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            17 hours ago

            Median income for my Canadian province is $91,000 per year. So living on $45,500 per year Canadian which would be about $1000 dollars less than the statistics from the employment and social development Canada website below for 3 persons (I’m including the two kids)

            https://www.canada.ca/en/employment-social-development/services/foreign-workers/caregiver/financial-ability.html

            I live in on of the richest Canadian provinces and you still probably couldn’t pull it off.

            I’m pulling my median salary from here.

            https://www03.cmhc-schl.gc.ca/hmip-pimh/en/TableMapChart/TableMatchingCriteria?GeographyType=Country&GeographyId=1&CategoryLevel1=Population%2C+Households+and+Housing+Stock&CategoryLevel2=Household+Income&ColumnField=HouseholdIncomeRange&RowField=Province&SearchTags[0].Key=Households&SearchTags[0].Value=Number&SearchTags[1].Key=Statistics&SearchTags[1].Value=AverageAndMedian

            any other questions?

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              17 hours ago

              Yeah one question. I said I was a bartender and waiter. I made about 20 maybe 30 grand gross probably a year with tips. It was a while ago, granted, but the cost of everything increased quite disproportionately to wages since then anyway and you seem like you’re trying real hard to prove something.
              So my questions is, what the fuck are you on about?

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                17 hours ago

                Were you raising kids? You’re making this super passive aggressive comment about the wife getting alimony and shit in a relationship where she’s the main caregiver for the kids. The whole thing comes across as super sexist. So what I’m “on about” is not only is your comment super sour and sad sounding, its also way out of whack with economic realities on the ground. So what are YOU on about is what I’m trying to figure out?

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                  15 hours ago

                  Why does it come across as sexist? Which part is untrue? Tell me about the “economic realities on the ground”, and the experience you’ve had that makes you an expert in this field.

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                    I just gave you economic data from the federal government, I’m not an expert but its basic shit.

                    Rent here is like $1600 per month for a two bedroom apartment. How are you going to afford that plus feeding two children on about $3000 per month the after tax? Add on car, heat, electricity, food, internet, and any other expenses.

                    Why does your original comment come across as sexist? Hmm maybe its the giant generalization that a traditional spouse would have alimoney child payment in a way that comes across as super sarcastic. What’s wrong with a spouse who is the primary childcare provider in a relationship being entitled to those things when that relationship ends? The kids and spouse still need to eat and have their expenses fulfilled, that doesn’t change because a relationship ends which is why those things exist in the first place.

                    How about this, how about you explain what your original comment meant? How about you explain how its not sexist?

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                    11 hours ago

                    Ah I get it now, to quote another one of your quotes about sex work.

                    "The.fuck with you all, seriously? Lol.
                    1st, I wish I could get someone to pay for pics of my “seat meat”, but that’s not likely. And my wife won’t let me sell pics of her feet either… yet.

                    2nd, What’s the premise here for all the jump up and defend?
                    You’re all ready to go spend the time and schooling required to get into a trade or profession, put in work 40 to 100 hrs a week at a job you hate to get some money, get your 2 bedroom house and Toyota Camry, and pay your monthly spank bank subscriptions, just to enable your duck-lip injection OnlyFans neighbor who works 20 hrs a week slobbin knob on camera to roll her F-Pace into the driveway of her 7 bed 8 bath with pool, because she happened to be born with tits and ass and no gag reflex?
                    How the fuck should zero skills amount to more affluence than skills?
                    I gotta assume everyone here is a keeping up with the Kardashians super fan…
                    Crazy. "

                    Fucking gross dude. Go fuck yourself im out. You need a better perspective on women, go touch some grass.