For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • ikt@aussie.zone
    69·
    18 hours ago

    It’s a tough one because it’s way better to have it done as a child than an adult, way less pain and women prefer it

    I’m super happy mine was done as a baby but I’ve not seen any like, mass movement of guys getting it done wishing they had it done when they were kid, would need a proper survey for that, if you could go back in time and get it done as a baby would you?

    • ChexMax@lemmy.world
      2·
      10 hours ago

      Not all women prefer it! I think that may be a kind of childish thing women say because they don’t know any better! Any time I’ve ever heard a woman say that and asked, they’d never been with an uncircumcised man, so they didn’t really know and were talking out of their ass.

      Having been with both types of penis: I don’t care at all, and if I have a son he will not be circumcised.

    • idiomaddict@lemmy.world
      51·
      15 hours ago

      Women prefer it if that’s all they know/if their uncircumcised partners aren’t very hygienic. I’m an American woman and grew up thinking uncircumcised penises were gross, but they feel better inside me and it’s way more fun to give a clean, uncircumcised penis a blowjob. It’s more obvious and unpleasant when an uncircumcised penis is dirty though.

      I was recently a bridesmaid for one of my friends from high school, and we talked about circumcision- all the friends I had growing up who were also grossed out by uncut penises who have actually had sex with a person with one agreed that they prefer them. It’s not something I would hold against a partner or anything (and my husband had phimosis, so he got a partial circumcision in his teens), but penises are naturally well formed for the purpose of enjoyable sex.

      • ikt@aussie.zone
        11·
        10 hours ago

        true but it’s pretty clear cut 😁 women overall prefer cut vs non cut

        Database searches identified 29 publications with original data for inclusion, including 22 for aim (i) and 4 of these and 7 others pertaining to aim (ii). In the overwhelming majority of studies, women expressed a preference for the circumcised penis. The main reasons given for this preference were better appearance, better hygiene, reduced risk of infection, and enhanced sexual activity, including vaginal intercourse, manual stimulation, and fellatio. In studies that assessed mothers’ preference for MC of sons, health, disease prevention, and hygiene were cited as major reasons for this preference. Cultural differences in preference were evident among some of the studies examined. Nevertheless, a preference for a circumcised penis was seen in most populations regardless of the frequency of MC in the study setting.

        https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6523040/