This generates so many questions it could be a study. I do not have any gay friends, or know of people around me who use Grindr so I guess if someone who does could tell me.
Do these people seek “locals” (nonMAGA) of towns/cities they live, or do they seek other MAGA hidden on the platform? If they’re looking for a non-MAGA partner, do they hide their leanings? Is it just not something discussed during dms before hooking up? Do they often become toxic and try to bully the partner or do they keep quiet and try to blend in with John Everyman? If they look for each other, do they have like…a tell on their profile to help signal to each other to help get swipes? Are they often top/bottom or is the demographic still case-by-case? Do they attend Grindr and mark “looking for friends” or “looking for hookups”? (Women used to use bumble a lot but like 90% of them were always marked as “just looking for friends” rather than hookups on their profiles)
This is the second time I’ve seen this phenomena of grindr spiking in a city where lots of MAGA congregates, but I dont think I’ve ever heard of assaults on homosexuals from maga people specifically after a hookup on grindr, in local/national news
(Women used to use bumble a lot but like 90% of them were always marked as “just looking for friends” rather than hookups on their profiles)
I’d just like to say, as a woman who used dating apps a lot in my young 20s, I didn’t put “looking for hookups” even when that’s what I wanted. If a woman puts on her profile that she’s looking for hookups, some guys become scarily entitled. For some reason some people think “wanting a hookup” means “I will fuck anyone who asks.” Which is… quite the bizarre leap. Add in, such profiles get inundated with messages - some guys will react poorly if ignored, while others will react poorly if responded to but then rejected. It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation, with some unhinged folk who have your picture, name, and know what town you live in.
I quickly realized it was a bad idea and never chose that option on a dating profile again.
It’s gay (or bi) MAGA men in the closet seeking hookups with people in other towns so they don’t bump into them later at the grocery store with their wife.
These are the same people that will say shit like “faggots make me sick” and some probably even go gay bashing.
Their religion and culture have damaged their brains into rejecting who they are and what they want in life and will violently lash out at others who embrace who they are.
I’d feel pity for them if they weren’t such horrible humans.
These are the same people that will say shit like “faggots make me sick” and some probably even go gay bashing.
My pet theory is that these bisexual conservatives are the origin of the “it’s a choice” thing. Because they do wake up every morning and choose to act straight in everyday life. And since they do it, they assume every gay person can do it. They’re just bisexual, and constantly deny that they find the same sex attractive.
Their hatred for gay people runs so deep because whenever they see an openly gay person, they see the part of themselves that they constantly deny; The part that they’re only able to deny by constantly telling themselves that it is disgusting. Because if they stop telling themselves that, they’re afraid that they’ll give into it. So whenever they see an openly gay person, the internalized “this part of you is disgusting and you should feel ashamed of it” part of them bubbles up to the surface and manifests as “just choose to be straight” homophobia.
I agree with this. Believing this also makes me comfortable in my straightness. I love the gay community, gay bars make the strongest drinks, and they are fun as hell to be with. They can grab my ass all they want, but I’ll always reject them. My fellow gay humans, keep being fabulous baby!
No I understand the rationale and why this occurs in the way it does, but not the process theyre going about it.
My thought was “surely if there was a larger trend AFTER these hookup patterns there’d be talk of it” but I am not the type of person/near the people who would be affected so I hear nothing and find that…unusual, given how much tea would be spilled back and forth on social media of “paul” recognizing “george” on grindr
This generates so many questions it could be a study. I do not have any gay friends, or know of people around me who use Grindr so I guess if someone who does could tell me.
Do these people seek “locals” (nonMAGA) of towns/cities they live, or do they seek other MAGA hidden on the platform? If they’re looking for a non-MAGA partner, do they hide their leanings? Is it just not something discussed during dms before hooking up? Do they often become toxic and try to bully the partner or do they keep quiet and try to blend in with John Everyman? If they look for each other, do they have like…a tell on their profile to help signal to each other to help get swipes? Are they often top/bottom or is the demographic still case-by-case? Do they attend Grindr and mark “looking for friends” or “looking for hookups”? (Women used to use bumble a lot but like 90% of them were always marked as “just looking for friends” rather than hookups on their profiles)
This is the second time I’ve seen this phenomena of grindr spiking in a city where lots of MAGA congregates, but I dont think I’ve ever heard of assaults on homosexuals from maga people specifically after a hookup on grindr, in local/national news
I’d just like to say, as a woman who used dating apps a lot in my young 20s, I didn’t put “looking for hookups” even when that’s what I wanted. If a woman puts on her profile that she’s looking for hookups, some guys become scarily entitled. For some reason some people think “wanting a hookup” means “I will fuck anyone who asks.” Which is… quite the bizarre leap. Add in, such profiles get inundated with messages - some guys will react poorly if ignored, while others will react poorly if responded to but then rejected. It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation, with some unhinged folk who have your picture, name, and know what town you live in.
I quickly realized it was a bad idea and never chose that option on a dating profile again.
It’s gay (or bi) MAGA men in the closet seeking hookups with people in other towns so they don’t bump into them later at the grocery store with their wife.
These are the same people that will say shit like “faggots make me sick” and some probably even go gay bashing.
Their religion and culture have damaged their brains into rejecting who they are and what they want in life and will violently lash out at others who embrace who they are.
I’d feel pity for them if they weren’t such horrible humans.
My pet theory is that these bisexual conservatives are the origin of the “it’s a choice” thing. Because they do wake up every morning and choose to act straight in everyday life. And since they do it, they assume every gay person can do it. They’re just bisexual, and constantly deny that they find the same sex attractive.
Their hatred for gay people runs so deep because whenever they see an openly gay person, they see the part of themselves that they constantly deny; The part that they’re only able to deny by constantly telling themselves that it is disgusting. Because if they stop telling themselves that, they’re afraid that they’ll give into it. So whenever they see an openly gay person, the internalized “this part of you is disgusting and you should feel ashamed of it” part of them bubbles up to the surface and manifests as “just choose to be straight” homophobia.
I agree with this. Believing this also makes me comfortable in my straightness. I love the gay community, gay bars make the strongest drinks, and they are fun as hell to be with. They can grab my ass all they want, but I’ll always reject them. My fellow gay humans, keep being fabulous baby!
No I understand the rationale and why this occurs in the way it does, but not the process theyre going about it.
My thought was “surely if there was a larger trend AFTER these hookup patterns there’d be talk of it” but I am not the type of person/near the people who would be affected so I hear nothing and find that…unusual, given how much tea would be spilled back and forth on social media of “paul” recognizing “george” on grindr