Merriam defines

So hate is just the extreme end of an “unfriendly feeling” which is synonymous to a negative feeling. We can go “golden middle” on this and say that moderate negative feelings are ideal, but even the moderate form seems synonymous to bias or prejudice.

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    I think you can’t spreadsheet your way through emotions — there isn’t a scoresheet that sorts them into a tidy “Good” column and an equally neat “Bad” column. I don’t think you can banish feelings you dislike and license only the pleasant ones.

    I think what’s possible is learning to recognize what you’re feeling, fully experiencing it, and choosing deliberately how to direct that energy. Regulating actions and words. I think you can’t stop feelings from arising.

    Life improves when you practice feeling deliberately, however imperfect the process, instead of suppressing emotions until they blow up.

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      I think you can’t stop feelings from arising.

      ok sure but like an addict ought not to act on their impulse, similar to hate or the continuum of negativity. Like we can have an impulse or emotion, but we oughtn’t entertain it. That is if we categorically disagree with the ends it brings. It is to recognize that negativity, especially intense negativity, is a pathway to hate, and hate is categorically undesirable. It’s just like how urge to use drugs leads to a pathway that is categorically undesirable (i.e., addiction).

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      there isn’t a scoresheet that sorts them into a tidy “Good” column and an equally neat “Bad” column

      There could be. Maybe we can make one. Maybe one was already made.

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      I don’t think you can banish feelings

      If you mean to banish as in to remove, then why not remove bad or nonconstructive feelings? If all things hateful is ultimately counterproductive, and hate is a degree of intensity from the emotion of dislike, then moderating that level of dislike ought to be good, just logically. Removing (banishing) hateful feelings, or being anti-hate, seems both popular and logical.

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        They said “I don’t think you can banish feelings”, you even quoted that, and you consequently suggest banishing feelings?

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            23 hours ago

            - “I can’t afford to buy food, I’m hungry”
            - “Have you tried buying food?”

            See the (non-philosophical) problem?

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              23 hours ago

              The role play is lacking important information for me to understand. It resembles a riddle. Can you speak directly with complete sentences?

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                No, I’ve tried twice to point out the simple concept of not being able to do something and its relation to iii@mander.xyz 's comment, I thought the second attempt may have been a bit too condescending but apparently it wasn’t.

                I’m sorry but you’re on your own.

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                  16 hours ago

                  Ok, it is tragic that it is difficult for you to express yourself. I am reminded of the 3 monkeys: see no evil, speak no evil, hear no evil. Screens distort what we see. Headphones block out our listening. And the decline in literacy and reading as well as civility is making it hard to speak. It would be a dark time once our eyes, ears, and mouths are closed off from each other