32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?

    • Noobnarski@lemmy.world
      17·
      2 months ago

      This is a good idea in general, however this doesn’t help when it comes to getting the first interest, because how can you tell if someone is really genuine about caring from a few words on a profile?

      But yeah, my girlfriend wanted to start dating me not because I am the most attractive person, but because I am always nice to her and to people in general. To me it seems crazy to not be, but I guess not everyone is like that.

          • Sonor@lemmy.world
            1·
            2 months ago

            While that is true, i think it also nicely points out that dating apps are actually not a great way to find a partner anymore

            • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
              1·
              2 months ago

              I mean, they were never, like, a fun way to meet a partner. But they certainly are a way.

              • Sonor@lemmy.world
                1·
                2 months ago

                i can see that, certainly. and there are cases where they are unavoidable. But still (and i show my age here) I’d still rather avoid them if at all possible

                • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  1·
                  2 months ago

                  A totally understandable take. On the other hand, I personally find them quite useful, and don’t think they should be dismissed out of hand. And I think that if someone wants advice on using them effectively (going back to my original post in this thread), that they should be given advice on using them effectively - not platitudes.

    • solrize@lemmy.ml
      8·
      2 months ago

      True but OP’s question was about dating apps, where the other person is shown your picture and prewritten blurb, and spends at most a few seconds deciding whether to swipe left or right. I can very easily understand a swipe-right ratio of well under 1%. So I think the question was about how to get past that.