32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?

  • Noobnarski@lemmy.world
    17·
    2 months ago

    This is a good idea in general, however this doesn’t help when it comes to getting the first interest, because how can you tell if someone is really genuine about caring from a few words on a profile?

    But yeah, my girlfriend wanted to start dating me not because I am the most attractive person, but because I am always nice to her and to people in general. To me it seems crazy to not be, but I guess not everyone is like that.

        • Sonor@lemmy.world
          1·
          2 months ago

          While that is true, i think it also nicely points out that dating apps are actually not a great way to find a partner anymore

          • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            2 months ago

            I mean, they were never, like, a fun way to meet a partner. But they certainly are a way.

            • Sonor@lemmy.world
              1·
              2 months ago

              i can see that, certainly. and there are cases where they are unavoidable. But still (and i show my age here) I’d still rather avoid them if at all possible

              • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
                1·
                2 months ago

                A totally understandable take. On the other hand, I personally find them quite useful, and don’t think they should be dismissed out of hand. And I think that if someone wants advice on using them effectively (going back to my original post in this thread), that they should be given advice on using them effectively - not platitudes.