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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • That’s a tough call. I would say the hardest was when I was on the board of a regional charity organization and we caught the CEO embezzling. If you’ve never dealt with something like that before, it’s hard to imagine the river of shit that is coming your way.

    This dude, who was paid a decent salary and benefits, very smugly told us that he felt he was more entitled to the money than the people who actually needed it. I’ve never wanted to punch anyone so badly. Firing him was the easy part. Dealing with the criminal investigation and the loss of community trust was the hard part. That was more of an emotionally exhausting year and a half rather than just a day though.





  • If you want men to think you’re older, be assertive. I know that’s probably an intimidating suggestion but the results may surprise you. It’s pretty normal for people in their early 20’s to not feel totally comfortable with themselves just yet.

    There’s also this stupid cultural expectation that men are supposed to initiate. I think both of these factors tend to cause a lot of women to not shoot their shots.

    Some women get older and realize

    A.) They like themselves for who they are.

    B.) They don’t give a shit about cultural expectations.

    C.) They know what they like and they’re not afraid to ask for it.

    In my experience, if you’re chatting me up or asking me out, I would automatically assume that you’re older because when I was on the dating scene, I was never approached by a woman who was younger than me. Most of them were at least a few years older.

    If you decide to try this, just know that you’re going to get rejected at some point, for any number of reasons. As long as you’re polite and honest, rejections will be a reflection of the other person, not you. Don’t waste your time dwelling on what other people think of you.

    There are plenty of men out there who will be impressed by your cojones, even if you just make the effort to talk to them.

    I bet (or at least I sure hope) if you asked Mrs. Cornpone if she regrets asking me out, which I now know was a huge deal for her and took a lot of courage, she would say, “Not at all.”