Growing up comes in stages, some of which are difficult for both parents and children to navigate.

When your kids are little, you’re the center of their universe and they are dependent on you for everything.

They grow up and become more independent. It’s a natural process as they prepare for adulthood. Their desire for autonomy develops without the benefit of experience. That can lead to conflicts.

Some of it is hard to take. Especially when your kid is telling you that “you don’t know what you’re talking about” or “I don’t need your help.” It makes you feel angry in the moment because it’s disrespectful and dismissive of your own experience. When I’m standing there, glowering angrily, I’m trying to think of what to say that doesn’t make things worse. Meanwhile, in my head I’m thinking, “Listen you little shit. You don’t know anything about anything. If you want to disregard what I’m telling you, fine. You can learn that you’re wrong the hard way.”

Then it makes you sad because you know that they will, in fact, have to learn the hard way. The hard way is painful. You know because you learned that way too when you were that age. But we learn from our own mistakes. Not from those of our parents. At least not when we’re young.

Love is not a feeling. Love has feelings connected to it but at its core, love is an act.

I loved my kids when they were adorable newborns. And when they screamed half the night and had explosive diarrhea.

When they come running, excited to see me and wanting to play. And when they’re being naughty little shits whom I’ve told to stop doing something seven times already.

When they’re telling me I’m a jerk because I won’t let them go to some party at some shithead from schools house because I know there will be drugs and alcohol involved. And when they need a hug because their boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with them or they’re just having a rough day.

Love means trying to do what’s best for them whether you’re happy, disappointed, or angry with them. Whether you like them or not. And there are definitely moments when you will NOT like your kids. But you still love them and want them to have a good life.

Its also incredibly fast.

One time my wife got me a really nice DeWalt jig saw for Christmas. I already had a jigsaw. It worked well enough for as much as I use it. Although the newer one was better quality and had a few nicer features.

You know what I did? I thanked her and told her how much I appreciated it. She saw something she thought would make my life a little easier and got it for me as a gift. It was a very kind gesture. If it were the wrong one, I probably would have talked to her later and asked if I could exchange it for one that would have suited my needs better while still letting her know that I appreciated what she was trying to do. I’m sure she would have been fine with that.

What I wouldn’t have done was gripe at her for buying me a new power tool because I “don’t like new things” or “I already have a jigsaw and it works just fine.” That would be a terrible idea which would understandably hurt her feelings when she was just trying to do something nice for me.

It wasn’t about the “thing”. It was about the gesture. The fact that they gave you such a gift shows that they pay attention to what you do and they wanted to give you something to make your life a little easier. That was very thoughtful but you threw it back in their face. I completely understand why they’re angry.

he would also stand far too close to people, which only served to amplify his size.

This was completely intentional. One of LBJ’s many “persuasion” tactics that were collectively known as “the treatment”.

“We’re going to use NestJS for the backend.”

Wait… Oh no. Oh please no. God why!?!

Richard Branson.

He would know if you had. Dude is scary good at remembering names.

You were “filled with the holy spirit.” You really couldn’t help it. 🤷‍♂️

Access is one of those programs that was a game changer in its day. Desktop databases became popular in the 80’s for orgs that either couldn’t afford or didn’t need a mainframe.

All the other competing desktop database systems were slow to transition from MS-DOS to Windows and Access offered quite a few features that the others didn’t have. Microsoft included Access with Office 95 and every office version thereafter. That pretty much wiped out the rest of the competition.

Access has just outlived it’s usefulness. Better solutions exist now. Microsoft seems aware of that since they’ve done basically nothing to it since 2016. They’re probably just keeping it around for the enterprise customers who are too stubborn to migrate off it yet.

Lol poor guy. Before we started dating, my wife frequently wore dresses that showed off her legs. Probably caught me staring at them more than once. But in my defense, when a beautiful work of art passes before your eyes, how can you ignore it?

“So it’s called a ‘knight’?”

“Yes.”

“But it’s shaped like a horse, not a knight.”

“Yes.”

“And it can only move in an ‘L’ shaped pattern.”

“…Yes.”

“That’s not confusing at all.”

All the function parameter and returns types are going to be “any”.

And we’re not going to tell you.

Self hosting is a great opportunity to learn about some popular technologies and even acquire a few sysadmin skills. Required knowledge of a self-hosted solutions tech stack is not gatekeeping any more than required knowledge of tools and building materials is gatekeeping when it comes to renovating your bathroom. In either scenario, if you don’t know what you’re doing, it’s going to be a much more difficult job.

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That said, you should not be exposing any of your services to the public if you don’t know what you’re doing. That’s a quick way to a bad time.

What’s really annoying is when you spend two days trying to track down a bug, only to find out it’s not really a bug.

Users can interact with AI to explore story elements, generate summaries, and build a personal knowledge base.

You what else would accomplish this? Reading the fucking book.

Land.

Even the rest of the Republicans wouldn’t piss on George Santos if he were on fire. That’s kind of impressive given their affinity for scumbags and criminals.

The PC OS market is saturated and has been for years with Microsoft dominating the market since mid 1990’s.

They were smart enough to realize the market was tapped out a long time ago and have worked aggressively to transform the entire organization from an OS provider into a SaaS provider that also happens make the dominant PC OS. Windows is slowly becoming just a funnel to chain you to the Microsoft “ecosystem” and make it easier to sell you more of their services. Good business decision but shitty deal for the customer.

That said, one of the major selling points for Windows has always been backward compatibility. Enterprise customers like to keep running their ancient software and some of them will pay exorbitant licensing fees to keep doing that.

You could do what my dad did and accidently delete some of the system files, leaving it for your kid to fix.

The reason I want my children to have access to a computer specifically, is that while TVs and phones are used to consume, computers are used to create.

Joking aside, that’s an interesting perspective. I hadnt really thought of it that way before, despite using a computer to create things almost every day.