I’m 51 and I have an astonishingly complete long term memory, I can remember parts of being 2 years old, and pretty much everything from age 4 onward. I mean not every single day in kindergarten or anything like that, but I have a pretty good grasp on what my daily life was like most of the time. I kept a friends only online blog for years, and when I’ve reread it, there’s only bits and pieces I don’t immediately remember, nothing significant, but when I read it I have good recall of what happened, it’s just not immediately on the surface of my mind.

My short term memory is sometimes iffy, it’s largely due to stress though from my violent ex, but it improves when I am feeling safer.

I think this is because I read so much.

As an aside, a great deal of CSAM is shared through Facebook, they’ve been asked by CSAM survivors to stop this and they said no. The advocacy survivor group Phoenix 11 submitted six formal questions in the US Congress to old Zuckface fuckface about it, as he deployed end to end encryption which makes this possible, which he dodged like the lying fuck he is. Zuck would sell it himself if it made him a whole dollar and nobody should forget that.

Buy everyone tickets for our local independent cinema, and feed some unhoused souls.

Everyone was very shocked back in the day at the ending of Seinfeld.

I would like to hear the part about the right wing extremist pipeline if you wouldn’t mind. That’s hard to get out of.

I feel like alcohol really gets away on women. I have known two women who sort of just became casual alcoholics without really noticing, like just suddenly it crept up on them that they were drinking lighter forms of alcohol in significant quantities, but it just all seemed like being social and relaxing, and it wasn’t until they each had in their mid forties a stroke and an aneurysm respectively. Neither of them were drinking to cope with difficulties or anything with a maladaptive intent, it was done in a social fashion only, and then suddenly became a huge problem.

I think drinking for women is different than drinking for men, and I think we have worse outcomes as a result.

I don’t really drink anymore, maybe 2-3 times a year I’ll have a single drink. I never had any sort of habit before but I liked my glass or two of wine on a weekend. But I just felt like it would be better to stop, and it was.

Congratulations on your sobriety, it’s a hard thing to achieve!

Edit: found the article I was thinking of: https://medium.com/gentleblog/why-alcohol-poses-a-greater-danger-to-women-a56bc21496d6

I went to a women’s shelter to go over safety planning with a social worker to leave my ex last week. That was a hard step to take. Wish me luck.

1. You are a generous and responsible parent.

2. All I can say is that my ex’s parents basically didn’t do shit for him, and his father was very wealthy and his mother got a positively palatial alimony check in those days, and yet he was left to his own devices for higher education and early adulthood, and it showed up in his adult habits in that he did really spiteful things regarding money because those needs weren’t met. I’m sure because you are this supportive your son will feel confident and responsible and be well grounded in life because he didn’t have to think about having his needs met, which is the ultimate wound really.

Yes!

The comedian Daniel Sloss does a bit on this.

You’re not reading this clearly.

I’m giving the answers the urology group told me, and also what I think. I am not saying do it, and I did say I don’t agree with it.

I hope so. I get what the urology perspective is. It’s honestly horrible to go through past infancy after 3 months of age, so being honest with your ability to do the necessary care is the most important thing. God it was a horrible thing to listen to though.

I worked in pediatric urology so I’ll give you their perspective first. The urologist’s assistant said the thing to do is assess honestly whether you’ll keep up with your child’s hygiene, if you are comfortable ensuring they’ll clean their foreskin as they grow up. My friend says she really had to stand over her son and tell him to wash his penis again and again. Boys are not the best at hygiene sometimes, so as long as you are comfortable ensuring he does so, don’t circumcise. If you don’t think you’ll be comfortable with that, be realistic, because boys get what’s called phimosis where the foreskin becomes stuck and doesn’t retract, and while there’s a cream called betnovate you can apply to relieve this, if it becomes chronic and there’s scarring, having circumcision as an older child is much more of an ordeal, as they have to go under general anesthesia. These are the pros and cons.

I think circumcision is a bad idea and don’t recommend it myself because I’ve heard a baby crying during one personally and that’s horrifying, but this is what the medical reality of it is, so be honest with yourself about what you can do as a parent. It’s honestly a terrible thing for them to go through without anesthesia as well. Bullying be damned, anyone who is offended by a normal penis isn’t worth your time anyway.

Must like the endorphins.

This makes me miss Flyingsquid.

Me, a couple of days at most when I had Norwalk.

My pug who passed recently would eat literally anything. This includes raw potatoes that he dug out of the ground himself, very hot peppers off the plant (he was delighted with this), a jar of dried soup beans, and a bag of slivered almonds. The first two I simply never thought he’d think to eat, the beans and almonds I thought were out of reach and weren’t. He was absolutely fine each time and very pleased with himself. When my ex would bring the grocery buckets in, he would be waiting and take a chomp out of anything he could reach, celery or lettuce or peppers. It really was cute despite the horrible poops he would have, and I miss him awful.

I keep my lunch in my work bag all day, not in the fridge, unless it’s salad where it should be crisp.

I did the European thing where I kept eggs on the counter. It’s best that way. Real unwashed farm eggs, not shit from the grocery store.

Dancing. I did go to a party last week with a DJ and danced my ass off anyway.

No, that’s narcissistic as far as I’m concerned.