As someone who was abused, it’s always the girl’s fault. Just existing is enough. This is especially reinforced in Christian and camp circles, because one of the first stories you learn is all sin started with Eve, and women are why we’re all damned.
Men are tempted, women are tempters – that’s how it’s always been.
Weird. Where I grew up it was more that boys/men were dirty uncontrollable sex monsters, and that girls didnt actually like sex. They only did it for men they loved. I had very weird ideas of what girls/women were pumped into my brain when I was a kid. I was genuinely surprised when I was talking to a girl I knew in school, and she was going on and on about how much she wanted to fuck this other guy in our class.
This just reminded me of the “self-defense training for girls” we had in 8th or 9th grade. It boiled down to “Every man potentially wants to hurt you.” Someone walking behind you? Turn around and yell at them to stop it. A man standing too close to you? Yell “Back off”.
Of course the situations were all mundane and it was pretty clear you couldn’t just yell at or confront any man that comes within ~3 meters of you. So all that “training” did was give me the uneasy feeling that if something happened, it would be my fault. I didn’t preemptively yell at the man within the first few seconds of seeing him.
As someone who was abused, it’s always the girl’s fault. Just existing is enough. This is especially reinforced in Christian and camp circles, because one of the first stories you learn is all sin started with Eve, and women are why we’re all damned.
Men are tempted, women are tempters – that’s how it’s always been.
Weird. Where I grew up it was more that boys/men were dirty uncontrollable sex monsters, and that girls didnt actually like sex. They only did it for men they loved. I had very weird ideas of what girls/women were pumped into my brain when I was a kid. I was genuinely surprised when I was talking to a girl I knew in school, and she was going on and on about how much she wanted to fuck this other guy in our class.
This just reminded me of the “self-defense training for girls” we had in 8th or 9th grade. It boiled down to “Every man potentially wants to hurt you.” Someone walking behind you? Turn around and yell at them to stop it. A man standing too close to you? Yell “Back off”.
Of course the situations were all mundane and it was pretty clear you couldn’t just yell at or confront any man that comes within ~3 meters of you. So all that “training” did was give me the uneasy feeling that if something happened, it would be my fault. I didn’t preemptively yell at the man within the first few seconds of seeing him.
Exactly! This is why females need to be modest! Besides, the bathing suits from over 100 years ago were a lot more modest than they are now. :-(
I just love wearing a wool full-body suit in the water. That wet sock feeling all over my body, down to my calves, is just chef’s kiss.