*male anger. Angry women are still emotional and hysterical.

I feel you. I’m allergy to all nuts (that are tested for) and soy. Dairy, eggs and nuts sounds like a shitty combination because a lot of the vegan stuff is nut-based.

I meow to find my husband and he will meow back.

Soon we can translate all the GDR jokes and use them for the US.

Maybe just really good intuition and knowledge of human behavior. You could probably make a lot of money as a psychic.

Have you read The perfume by Patrick Süskind? You sound like a real-life Grenouille. Without the murdering, hopefully :D

I’m a 5 :) Thought for way to long that all this “Picture in your mind” stuff was just a figure of speech, not that people actually SEE pictures on their mind.

Unfortunately I have just one contact who is actively using signal :(. Everybody else is on Whatsapp.

We need stricter social rules again in a lot of areas and children need to be brought up stricter again. Now I don’t mean we should get back to being in other people’s business in regards to what they wear or who they love. But let’s go back to shunning people for littering. Teach kids to sit still and be quiet in certain spaces like public transport or restaurants. Ostracize people who are loud and disruptive in public. Let’s just implement some stricter social rules again.

Even if the system isn’t completely rigged by then, it’s been proven time and time again that the average voter has the attention span of a toddler on sugar. I’m afraid what happens now, three and a half years away from the elections, will have no influence on the elections.

Yeah, that’s my main reason for not going to the cinema. I like the atmosphere and I can afford it, but why would I spend so much money just to have the experience spoiled by a bunch of brats jumping around and being annoying.

While I generally agree, there aren’t enough hotels who cater to special needs. For example I have two life threatening food allergies. Most hotels will tell me they can’t cater to my needs because everything is prepared in the same pots, pans and cutting boards. I can’t even have breakfast at most hotels.

The two times when I went to hotels that specifically advertised themselves as being allergy-friendly, I still ended up with 1) hazelnuts as decoration on my steak because it was Christmas and the cook had forgotten about my anaphylaxis to nuts and 2) being told on arrival that contrary to the information via email they only have a breakfast buffet where everything is prepared on the same cutting boards and it’s all contaminated with nuts.

And I’m sure I’m not the only one. People with severe gluten intolerance or other food-related restrictions are having a hard time. Hotels just don’t give a fuck for people with special needs. AirBnB or camping is currently the only way I can stay in a different city.

That doesn’t mean I think what is happening with AirBnB and the cities is great, I just wish more hotels would be accommodating to special needs so they can be an option for everyone. For me it would already suffice if I could use the fridge and just prepare my own breakfast in my room, but most hotels allow fridge-usage only for medicine.

“Just do it” is helpful in some cases, but mostly not. E.g. you think that a hobby is cool but you don’t feel like you could start it? Just do it, take a course, try it out. It becomes unhelpful quickly when the realities of your life are just different. Telling in unemployed person with debt who is fascinated with flying to “just get a pilot license” ignores their reality. But telling a business analyst who’s interested in manga but feels like this hobby would destroy his image, to “just do it and buy some mangas” is totally valid.

I have been struggling financially for most of my life and have received way too often the unhelpful advice to “just do it. Live a little.” Just book that 100€ flight to Italy and see Rome. Just get a smartphone, everyone has one now! (That was when smartphoneplans were very expensive here and I couldn’t justify such a high monthly cost. Yes I’m older.)

There is way too much “just do it” advise by people that live in their nice little bubble of a well-off, supportive family system and never realize that the only reason they can “just do it” is because they never had to eat rice with tomato sauce for 3 days in a row because there were only 10€ on the bank account by the 26th.

On a similar note, “just get a job, just learn something more profitable/in an industry with high wages” is also an often unhelpful advice. Not everyone can be good at everything. And not everyone can just uproot their lives and go back to school for a few years. Yes, some people can do amazing things like get a masters degree while working full-time and having kids. But this advise, too, ignores the reality of many people. If you have no support system or if you simply aren’t cut out for the currently profitable jobs, you can’t just magically switch careers. And even if you do: things change so quickly and there is no guarantee, that the currently well-paid job will still be like that in 5-10 years.

You had to choose between a small set of approved groups you could belong to. It was especially bad in my small village in western Germany: you could be either a fashion victim (all with the same hair, clothing style, one year they ALL dyed their hair red), a computer nerd, a sporty person, a hip-hop or a techno fan. If you didn’t belong to any of the approved groups, you were an outsider and bullied.

Obviously I’m writing this because my best friend and I were among the outcast. We bought our stuff at thrift shops and didn’t care much for fashion, neither what was ‘in style’ nor the geek/techno/hip-hop fashion. One year I cut my hair really short and got so much shit for it, because apparently you could only do that if you 100% subscribed to a matching Goth aesthetic. (Still have short hair, so take that stupid mean girls!)

It was probably partially a small-town-thing, but if you look at the media from the 90s you’ll rarely see characters that don’t neatly fit a certain type.