Its called Internalised Misogyny

Women who experience internalized misogyny may express it through minimizing the value of women, mistrusting women, and showing gender bias in favor of men. Women, after observing societal beliefs which demean the value and skills of women repeatedly, eventually internalize those misogynistic beliefs and apply them to themselves and other women.

incels are probably looking in the wrong places for them, there is something for everyone. just not something that can be attainable for you, but attainable for someone else.