I’ve never wanted kids, it’s just not my thing. I’ve been thinking about getting a vasectomy for quite a while now, and I finally decided to take the next step. I called a clinic, went in for a consultation, and the doctor explained everything thoroughly. My procedure is scheduled for a little over two weeks from today. My family is strongly against it. They believe I’ll change my mind as I get older and end up regretting it.
Looking back, I realize I was pretty immature at 22. It didn’t feel that way at the time, but it sure does now. These days, 18‑year‑olds look like kids to me.
I didn’t want kids back then, and I still don’t - but my perspective has shifted a little. When I see parents now, there’s a slight melancholic feeling that comes with knowing that’s something I’ll probably never experience.
So yeah, if you’re 30 and don’t want kids, that’s probably not going to change. Before that, though, there’s always a chance.
Fostering and adopting is a thing. And can be just as, if not more, rewarding.
Over the years I have unofficially fostered a few kids, run aways that I took In and their parents realized it was better for them to stay with me rather than forcing them home to run away again to who knows where this time.
I see one of them from time to time around town and always tells me about work and his girl friend, no I do not have the same relationship with him as I do my own kids, but he only lived with me for 6 months, and that time greatly improved his home situation.
I’ve done this unofficial fostering myself. I make sure that I don’t claim all ”my” kids, they are still their own individuals and have all rights to connect with their families and cultures. I love my kids, both bio and not. I wouldn’t want to be without them. But I still am sure I should have had other options achieved when I was younger. So I concur with the commenter I replied to now and OP. Don’t let family pressure fuck your life up.
Can fully agree and would even say wait until 32