I don’t trust other men to respect boundaries. If another man is only friends with my girlfriend because he wants to fuck her then he’s already the type of man I wouldn’t trust not to make unwanted moves.
She might not reciprocate but that’s not what I’m worried about in this scenario.
It’s fine, maybe even healthy, to be wary of other men. It’s also important to respect your partner’s autonomy, and to trust that with that autonomy, they will act in a manner that is healthy for the relationship (and for that trust to be reciprocated). It’s great that you are willing to protect your partner, but it’s important that you let your partner inform you when that protection is needed, instead of assuming based on your one-sided view of the person your partner is interacting with. Taking action based on that one-sided view, instead of having a discussion with your partner first, can make you come off as possessive.
But, if you trust her, there shouldn’t be a problem, right?
Or is it that you (in this hypothetical situation) don’t truly trust her, otherwise you’d trust her around people you don’t trust.
And that’s okay, just don’t pretend it’s actually trust.
I don’t trust other men to respect boundaries. If another man is only friends with my girlfriend because he wants to fuck her then he’s already the type of man I wouldn’t trust not to make unwanted moves.
She might not reciprocate but that’s not what I’m worried about in this scenario.
It’s fine, maybe even healthy, to be wary of other men. It’s also important to respect your partner’s autonomy, and to trust that with that autonomy, they will act in a manner that is healthy for the relationship (and for that trust to be reciprocated). It’s great that you are willing to protect your partner, but it’s important that you let your partner inform you when that protection is needed, instead of assuming based on your one-sided view of the person your partner is interacting with. Taking action based on that one-sided view, instead of having a discussion with your partner first, can make you come off as possessive.