• pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    I mean, if the kind of friends and family you’d invite to a gender reveal party don’t take you seriously about what you say your gender is, why would a party change their minds and why are they still in your life? I mean go for it but it sounds like a weird uncomfortable situation. If you were publicly questioning yourself for a while and experimenting and settle on being cis, hell yea go for it. If you just see trans people doing it and want to undermine them “all lives matter” style, then that’d pretty shitty but you do you.

    All that being said, I don’t know any trans people who threw a party when they came out, much less called it a gender reveal party. I think the typical experience is anxiously gradually letting more and more family and friends in on it, certainly has been the experience for me

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      2 days ago

      Life’s not easy. I couldn’t possibly begin to list the reasons why people keep others close regardless of their sexual orientation or opinions on that, but I’m sure there are motives. This is all hypothetical, since I’m coming from a generation in which this wasn’t a thing, but yeah, I was projecting my younger self in current times, too. And definitely, more like the end of a journey of sexual discovery than mocking any kind of people.

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        Personally, friends who I’ve come out to as trans who still think I’m male are no longer friends. Family would be trickier and I’m very thankful I haven’t had to deal with that but I’d cut out anyone closer than immediate family for sure. One thing I definitely wouldn’t do for sure? Invite those people to a party hahaha