Just using your post as a springboard to get all 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
but I wonder how much of the idea of “women’s friendships decay, men’s friendships can pick up exactly where they left off” is based on reality… And how much of it is just a stereotype based on social norms that are no longer true. Y’know, like the idea that “women have naturally better emotional intelligence” (the reality is that most young boys were and on some level still are discouraged from engaging with emotions in general, and it’s hard to get good at something with no practice)
I can’t even cite personal anecdotal experience as an argument for or against because my friendship group is mostly queer dudes with the occasional transgender chick or enby person.
As a woman I have friend’s I just talk to whenever I want, like once or twice per year and never had a problem with them. Athough there were friends I lost because we didn’t have enough contact and they didn’t like that. Looks like it depends on the person and not the gender. Who would have thought that ;-)
It doesn’t apply in my case. I’m a woman and I have a female friend (former coworker, she’s moved back to NI now) who I can just pick up with where we left off. She forgot to install telegram for almost a year on her new phone so I had to text her to remind her I exist, and we just went back to chatting like nothing happened. I’m autistic and she’s a bit weird, so I don’t know if that affects anything. But we can go a few months without chatting and it doesn’t matter. In my case, if someone is important/significant to me, then it doesn’t matter if a few months go by. Same with the few relatives I get on with. If we’re talking several years, then yeah, people change, grow, move on.
I think women have naturally better emotional intelligence and I don’t think it’s because boys are told not to be emotional. I think women just see things that men don’t
Just using your post as a springboard to get all 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
but I wonder how much of the idea of “women’s friendships decay, men’s friendships can pick up exactly where they left off” is based on reality… And how much of it is just a stereotype based on social norms that are no longer true. Y’know, like the idea that “women have naturally better emotional intelligence” (the reality is that most young boys were and on some level still are discouraged from engaging with emotions in general, and it’s hard to get good at something with no practice)
I can’t even cite personal anecdotal experience as an argument for or against because my friendship group is mostly queer dudes with the occasional transgender chick or enby person.
As a woman I have friend’s I just talk to whenever I want, like once or twice per year and never had a problem with them. Athough there were friends I lost because we didn’t have enough contact and they didn’t like that. Looks like it depends on the person and not the gender. Who would have thought that ;-)
It doesn’t apply in my case. I’m a woman and I have a female friend (former coworker, she’s moved back to NI now) who I can just pick up with where we left off. She forgot to install telegram for almost a year on her new phone so I had to text her to remind her I exist, and we just went back to chatting like nothing happened. I’m autistic and she’s a bit weird, so I don’t know if that affects anything. But we can go a few months without chatting and it doesn’t matter. In my case, if someone is important/significant to me, then it doesn’t matter if a few months go by. Same with the few relatives I get on with. If we’re talking several years, then yeah, people change, grow, move on.
I think women have naturally better emotional intelligence and I don’t think it’s because boys are told not to be emotional. I think women just see things that men don’t
ok