What to do: have 6 figures in the bank. Buy shiity flat, buy expensive flat or just continue to enjoy number going up. No kids. No hope. Im leaning towards shitty flat because i’d pay it off quickly but if all goes to hell then does it matter?
Genuine question. Current living situation is irritating but cheap.
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Get a hobby that you are passionate about. All that money should disappear relatively quickly
Hi stupid but have money, I’m dad
What do you want out of it? Owning adds responsibilities and costs. If you don’t have a reason to own other than you can, why take on those responsibilities and costs?
Owning a property is not just an investment, not just not paying rent, but a commitment. Some of us consider it well worth it. Some of us even like that part of it. But consider whether that’s you
just buy what would make you happy / comfortable
It sounds like op doesn’t know what they want. Ultimately, OP, I think you have to figure out that question.
When was the last time you were consistently happy? Are there any people in your lives of whom you’d wish to trade places?
I never compare myself to others. Interesting question. So no. Consistently happy? No, lifelong depression, the goal here is avoidance of misery, happiness is not an option.
If you’re depressed, avoid impoverished neighborhoods (i.e. shitty flats). Poverty is depressing, and as elitist as that might sound, it’s fucking true.
Go get yourself a flat in a bougie neighborhood, somewhere walkable, with plenty of greenspace, well-maintained infrastructure, and happy neighbors.
You might still be depressed, but it’ll be magnitudes less than if you move into the cheapest place you can find.
Ok then, skip Happiness for now, can you come up with anything that would feel meaningful? I do think you could benefit from therapy either way and/or anti-depreccent. There is no shame in needing a little help in your life. I’ve Been on anti-depreccent about 10-yeara and just recently stopped. It really helped me through a couple of difficult years, that and just talking to someone has made a huge difference. All love.
buy shitty flat, wait a few years and pay down the loan as if the interest rate is and extra 2%, in a year or 2 sell the shitty flat and buy a better one. rinse and repeat
Welcome to the property ladder.
The shitty flats have been the same price for a decade, plus the goal here is to stop moving. I’ve rented too many places, just want a home.
You interested in home improvement? Buy the shitty flat, slowly fix it up the way you like, and if you ever decide to sell, it’ll likely be worth a little more.
Fuck. I’m smart and broke
If you were smart you’d just pull yourself up by the bootstraps.
The secret ingredient, is crime.
(You could easily run for office and abandon all yout morals… accept bribes, get rich)
If you have a place to store your stuff, maybe look at other countries. Living in America was very depressing.
It depends on your needs. I’m in the same boat, and for now, I’m investing because I ran the numbers and decided my combination of factors (local real estate market, level of commitment to this location, job security) means I’m better off with market risk and renting.
I can totally be wrong. The future is uncertain. I decided that’s the risk I prefer over the risk of stagnant home values.
Still this is a very personal decision. I’d choose between a basic but solid flat vs. investing in other ways, but don’t buy real estate to invest IMHO you do it because it suits your lifestyle first, and only after that, as an investment.
As for your mental health struggles, I can only offer empathy. I’m not smart enough emotionally to help you there.
If all goes to hell in the way you’re describing, that number in your bank account will do nothing for you. You could, as another comment suggested, get into prepping as your hobby but just based on this post I’m thinking if shit truly “went down” I imagine you don’t really want to stick around for it.
For that reason I think you should get something you can afford, and keep some money around for exploring new hobbies. That will remove the irritation of renting but you’ll be responsible for everything which could be a new set of irritations. You have, as you say, no desire to do anything. I don’t know how you pass time now but to me, that means you should try new things and see if they stick.
Go for a couple hikes, take some pictures while you’re there (especially if it’s in nature, like a forest). Try playing some video games, read some interesting books, cook a few more intricate meals. Start learning another language. Try something creative like writing, you don’t have to share it after or try to make money from it, just doing it to do it. It doesn’t really matter, just if you think of an activity you haven’t tried recently, give it a shot and if you like it keep going.
Not every day all the time, but maybe a day or two a week you attempt something. Even if that doesn’t necessarily help, at least it keeps things interesting. All I’m getting at is “Number goes up” hasn’t worked so far, so try something else. And so what if all goes to hell, when it does would you rather be right and have done nothing because it didn’t matter or would you rather have enjoyed a few things in the meantime?
You’re a good person Bongles. Number goes up is my security blanket but you are right about trying things. Poverty makes me dull and I’ve trained myself to do nothing and spend nothing. I do cook though so that’s something.
To me the most important thing is your living situation.
Fuck living in an irritating situation that’s just not worth anything.
If I were in that situation I would buy a shitty flat, pay it off, then spend as little time there as possible while traveling the world. Maybe have some passive income from the flat by renting it out. Not having kids to worry about would make all that a lot simpler.
But you should do what makes you happy. Try not to worry too much about the future and enjoy what you have now.
Im leaning towards this but the thing is that I don’t actually want to do anything. I have no desires aside from sit on couch and drink. There is nothing I enjoy aside from food and booze. I can do whatever I want, I’m incredibly lucky, and I just want to be be unconscious.
Maybe some of your money would be well spent on therapy and/or antidepressants.
Yes, a lot of things suck in the world right now, but there are a lot of great things when you look at the micro level—unless you have depression. And that’s the strong vibe I’m getting from your comments. Therapy isn’t a total fix and finding the right drugs can be a pain, but they can both make a significant difference over time.
