• pieland@piefed.social
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    2 days ago

    It really depends a lot on context and situation, ideally it’s someone you already have at least SOME passing acquaintance with so they give you a chance

    okay, so this won’t work with all the social media maga telling me to kill myself.

    i’ve done all those things as in person i don’t like being confrontational. yeah, it makes people adore me and say im the sweetest. never changes them though.

    a little observation. your comment history says you’re a cis man. i think that might be part of why it’s been more effective for you to change minds. what you say has more weight.

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      okay, so this won’t work with all the social media maga telling me to kill myself.

      Get off social media, at least with any connection to your real self and identity, and don’t try to move people there with anything more rigorous than memes. This isn’t the kind of environment that gives any kind of meaningful results.

      If you have people saying anything positive about you, you’re succeeding on some level, and I don’t think it has as much to do with gender or race or identity as much as how comfortable you can make someone. I’m not the only person who advocates turning bigots with careful connection tactics, and I’m certainly privileged by being male, but I don’t accept people saying they can’t do things because of a label they’ve fixed on themselves, anyone is capable of fantastic things if you don’t see limitations in yourself. You adjust and adapt your tactics for the role you play.