You don’t “be polite” you be a person who can be social, listen and ask questions and read someone’s feelings.
If you can do that, you will not only be a more social person who others will want to be around, you will also have a chance of playing right-wing dipshits like a fiddle.
You don’t make a scared dog respect you by being a cowering stooge, you show dominance while at the same time not being a threat.
I’m not saying YOU need to do anything, I’m saying this can be done, and shooting down people who have actually done it many times makes it seem like you rather have vindication and justice than change. The universe is sadly lacking in justice and owes us nothing, but I would absolutely take change as a close second.
You don’t “be polite” you be a person who can be social, listen and ask questions and read someone’s feelings.
That is literally what being polite is. I have been polite, and not started arguments with them for years by just politely disagreeing while they dial up their rhetoric and are now full on fascists.
The examples of people who spend years convincing a handful of people are overblown while MAGA numbers increase exponentially.
You are saying we have to be all Kitty Soft Paws with them to avoid hurting their feelings. That didn’t work before at any scale, and it certainly won’t work now. Now is the time to be blunt and point out they voted for this shit and that their anti immigration stuff is racist and that their opposition to DEI is based on them not understanding what it is.
They spew hate constantly, it is time to push back. Fuck their feelings.
I’ve been dealing with difficult people for decades, I am not speaking out my ass when I warn you, that you will not get what you wish for. You don’t have to do the work, as I said it’s perfectly fair if you want to say “I don’t have the emotional fortitude to even want to change people” and that’s valid.
But trying to rally others to hate before acting for change, that’s a special kind of darkness and it won’t serve you well. You are going to spin in ever-increasing disappointment waiting for something to happen that will NEVER FUCKING HAPPEN. You have to start accepting that the universe owes us nothing and the glorious revolution is never coming, so you have to find your own ways to deal with the frustration of injustice. If you can’t get to that point at least, you’re going to become that which you hate. Hate just makes hate.
You don’t “be polite” you be a person who can be social, listen and ask questions and read someone’s feelings.
If you can do that, you will not only be a more social person who others will want to be around, you will also have a chance of playing right-wing dipshits like a fiddle.
You don’t make a scared dog respect you by being a cowering stooge, you show dominance while at the same time not being a threat.
I’m not saying YOU need to do anything, I’m saying this can be done, and shooting down people who have actually done it many times makes it seem like you rather have vindication and justice than change. The universe is sadly lacking in justice and owes us nothing, but I would absolutely take change as a close second.
That is literally what being polite is. I have been polite, and not started arguments with them for years by just politely disagreeing while they dial up their rhetoric and are now full on fascists.
The examples of people who spend years convincing a handful of people are overblown while MAGA numbers increase exponentially.
You are saying we have to be all Kitty Soft Paws with them to avoid hurting their feelings. That didn’t work before at any scale, and it certainly won’t work now. Now is the time to be blunt and point out they voted for this shit and that their anti immigration stuff is racist and that their opposition to DEI is based on them not understanding what it is.
They spew hate constantly, it is time to push back. Fuck their feelings.
I’ve been dealing with difficult people for decades, I am not speaking out my ass when I warn you, that you will not get what you wish for. You don’t have to do the work, as I said it’s perfectly fair if you want to say “I don’t have the emotional fortitude to even want to change people” and that’s valid.
But trying to rally others to hate before acting for change, that’s a special kind of darkness and it won’t serve you well. You are going to spin in ever-increasing disappointment waiting for something to happen that will NEVER FUCKING HAPPEN. You have to start accepting that the universe owes us nothing and the glorious revolution is never coming, so you have to find your own ways to deal with the frustration of injustice. If you can’t get to that point at least, you’re going to become that which you hate. Hate just makes hate.