I have two daughters, never cared about what gender they would be, they are who they are.
But when they were born and some people acted like it was a bad thing that they were girls,I told them it is 2020, they could still come out as boys. That usually shut them up.
what kind of family sickos care about the gender of a baby
way more common than I expected. or maybe they were assuming I (a man) wanted a boy.
either way it was stupid
I had a very Christian coworker who already had a daughter and who was part of the maga pipeline. He didn’t hide his disappointment when he told me the gender of he and his wife’s next child had been revealed as another girl. Sent a shudder up my spine how he paused and said it in a sad tone, the way you would if you were a teenager expecting a Mustang for your birthday and instead having your parents roll up in a Saturn for you. What kind of world do we live in where folks are disappointed that their next kid will be female? It’s dumb society has been crafted this way, stupid af.
What kind of world do we live in where folks are disappointed that their next kid will be female? It’s dumb society has been crafted this way, stupid af.
I’m probably giving more credit than is due, but:
I don’t think it’s inherently bad for a parent to have a preference for their kid’s sex. If a mother already has a son, I can understand her wanting her next child to be a daughter. Similarly, if a father already has a daughter, I can understand him wanting a son next. All parent/child relationships are special, but I understand parents who are particularly interested in cultivating a mother/daughter or father/son relationship.
Obviously no parent should ever be disappointed in their child for simply being one sex or the other; that’s not okay. But I can understand a parent being disappointed that things didn’t turn out how they had hoped in that regard.
Disclaimer: My father was very transparent that I was a last-ditch-effort for him to finally have a son after having 3 daughters. Thanks dad.
that’s so sad.
I can’t imagine growing up with your own parents being disappointed in your for just being born.
My experience was that everyone was interested in knowing the gender, but no one ever had any responses other than happy ones relating to the answer. We ended up with one boy and one girl so there was an opportunity for people to comment positively and negatively for the binary genders. We had a lot of people comment on it being nice that we ended up with 1 boy and 1 girl, but I took that as getting to experience raising both binary genders. Also, everyone was excited to buy baby clothes targeting little girls and little boys. While my daughter has a “girly” side to her, she also wears hand-me-downs from my son whose clothes are not “girly.”
I will say, I have worked hard to keep people in my life who are good people and get away from the rest (e.g., I haven’t talked with my biological mother in 20 years because she drains energy and money from everyone around her). So, that may be why my experience was different. Although, I also experienced this with strangers (e.g., people in the grocery store were happy to chat with my wife about her pregnancy regardless of whether my wife was. At least they were all nice.).
Chinese Culture has entered the chat…
During the One Child Policy, a lot of female fetuses were said to have been aborted once the parents found out about their gender. Some were abandoned after their birth.
I’m in a family that has two sons (I’m the second one), because my mother decided to violate the one child policy, and I remember growing up, my mother would often warn me about kidnappings and according to her, the “bad guys” (bad guys? what a nebulous term lol) would “harvest the organs of little boys and [SA] little girls and sex traffic them”…
Like wtf, I have no idea how true that is, since the authorities don’t exactly like publishing real numbers of crime statistics. But like I think this idea of kidnappings just gets spread throuout communities. Like some kid gets kidnapped, then gossips spereads and suddenly everyone is affraid of their kid getting kidnapped. I think thess kidnappings is fueled by the one child policy. I actually ran away from home once when I was in Guangzhou… well I did not get kidnapped lol… (seriously tho, I was like 5-7 or something and I had a fight with my older brother at home, so kid-me made the stupid decision to run away)
My mom actually joked about “selling me” to another family when I “didn’t behave”… wtf mom… are you even my real mom? 🤔
But just to give an idea… they have this genenology book thing, it’s only male names written into it. My mom told me what my paternal grandfather got so excited when he found out that my dad had 2 sons… although I didn’t even like my paternal grandfather, he seems to like my older brother more… I guess it makes sense, if this was a royal family (we’re not, but I’m just using it as an example), my brother would be the oldest son of my paternal grandparents oldest son, so succession goes to him… also I think it’s because he speaks Taishanese better, more connected to the older generation, I only speak Cantonese, cuz my parents never spoke it to me lol… whatever, I like Cantonese better anyways, there’s not even a Taishanese movie or tv show or video game (shoutouts to Sleeping Dogs the game lol)
I have no idea what are the odds of having two male children… like… did my mom have abortions of female fetuses before? No idea, feels so wrong to ask about it… but anyways… I’m here… my existence is weird… I’m an anomoly, and nobody cares.
So… yea… 重男輕女 in a nutshell
A lot of Asian cultures still prefer male children
some people acted like it was a bad thing that they were girls
& guessing they weren’t rural farmers or born in 1800 or anything
Rural farmers are sometimes women.
The people who said bad things I mean didn’t have an excuse, like they were just worried about what it would mean for any family farms
Nobody actually cares except for a few vocal fetishists for and against.
Needs to give him 200. 100 to return, 100 for the bet
100 € ($?) has devalue a lot in 10 years, he is still on the loosing end of this bet.
And yet she still needs to give him 200, even ignoring inflation!
Why does the husband have a hand with 5 fingers for only the first panel and then everyone else has mits for hands? Lol.
Sometimes people get tired
lol
More that that, the husband and wife have full right hands and mitt left hands in the first panel.
There should totally be an inflationary rise in the amount returned.
And that rise needs to be based on $200 (the 100 he gave her given back and the hundred she lost).
Firstly if they are married it doesn’t matter, secondly the bet was likely friendly. Thirdly the rush from being right after all those years is worth it
Inflation still occurs if you’re married.
[citation needed]
Gestures broadly at everything
Dont know why you gotta gesture like a broad but okay.
This dumb fucking joke is brought to you by the stupid side of my brain.
Edit: turns out it’s not ubiquitous to have a shared account
But they probably have a shared account
Idk man, I’m married and we don’t have a shared bank account. Shared cards, sure. I guess it’s hard to make broad, sweeping generalizations - other than that inflation happens regardless.
Oh, not something I looked into much personally. I just knew my parents shared an account and didn’t think more into it. Edited the comment, nice to learn something random
They also probably have a personal account that they can use as a discretionary fund for whatever they individually want to do.
Our usual has been 100 Argentinian pesos. The token actually exists, even though I’m doing way better than my wife.
The value has plummeted since we started.
Vet? Tight?
Right, bet. Presumably.
Yeah fixed it
You fixed the first one not the second btw
It should also be 200! Refund + bet money
But not even if she had all the existing money in the world, she could pay those 200!
Be careful with !s around your numbers, kids. You might accidentally factorial!
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My friend’s daughter was born just yesterday and he told me that he’s actually more excited that she’s a girl. I think you’re essentializing and you don’t really understand men.
I’ll admit I kinda would have liked a boy and girl, but I’m not going to shoehorn my girls into any particular roles (except for the particular video games and 80’s movies they must learn of).
“But daaaad, I want to play Animal Crossing today”
‘Absolutely not, today is Chrono Trigger and RTS day!’
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