For most of my life, I failed to understand hookup culture and ONS. “Damn, I met someone appealing enough that I would like to have sex with them! You know what would make this better? Never seeing them again!” You discovered a Fountain of Sex! Why abandon that now that it’s flowing?!
I agree entirely. I’m not against it for other folks, that’s totally cool—it’s just completely not for me. I’m lucky to have found My Person a while before things like Tinder existed; I don’t envy any side of dating right now, especially for anyone who feels the same way I do about relationships and whatnot.
I totally agree with both of you. I once hooked up with some chick at work. Well long story short we started dating and got married. I was trying to do the ONS thing but we ended up having a lot in common. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Same with my partner and me. We met through mutual friends when they were visiting our area as they lived literally thousands of miles away. We hit it off and hooked up that night. We agreed nothing would come of it - we even shook hands on it!
Four months later we were a couple. A year later we relocated and moved in together. Now we’ve been married for 12 years.
Oh, gawd, it’s a special kind of hell. My partner and I were ENM when we met, but mutually decided we preferred monogamy (long story). Over the past summer, we decided to dip our toes back into having sidepieces. And our tolerance for modern dating bullshit lasted all of three weeks.
We’re not monogamous because of societal norms; we’re monogamous because of zero tolerance for the state of dating. 😆
Some people get their validation from sex. They might not even like the sex. In fact they probably don’t enjoy it but they do like that bit of validation.
They probably aren’t attracted to their ONS. Once they feel validation they want to be far away from the prison they felt it with.
For most of my life, I failed to understand hookup culture and ONS. “Damn, I met someone appealing enough that I would like to have sex with them! You know what would make this better? Never seeing them again!” You discovered a Fountain of Sex! Why abandon that now that it’s flowing?!
I agree entirely. I’m not against it for other folks, that’s totally cool—it’s just completely not for me. I’m lucky to have found My Person a while before things like Tinder existed; I don’t envy any side of dating right now, especially for anyone who feels the same way I do about relationships and whatnot.
I totally agree with both of you. I once hooked up with some chick at work. Well long story short we started dating and got married. I was trying to do the ONS thing but we ended up having a lot in common. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Same with my partner and me. We met through mutual friends when they were visiting our area as they lived literally thousands of miles away. We hit it off and hooked up that night. We agreed nothing would come of it - we even shook hands on it!
Four months later we were a couple. A year later we relocated and moved in together. Now we’ve been married for 12 years.
Worst one night stand ever.
Dating looks like a nightmare. I told my husband we have to be immortal so I never have to date again.
Oh, gawd, it’s a special kind of hell. My partner and I were ENM when we met, but mutually decided we preferred monogamy (long story). Over the past summer, we decided to dip our toes back into having sidepieces. And our tolerance for modern dating bullshit lasted all of three weeks.
We’re not monogamous because of societal norms; we’re monogamous because of zero tolerance for the state of dating. 😆
Everyone out there has to compete against stability and comfort and deep rich connection. Standards too high? Hardly! Standards are just high enough.
Some people get their validation from sex. They might not even like the sex. In fact they probably don’t enjoy it but they do like that bit of validation.
They probably aren’t attracted to their ONS. Once they feel validation they want to be far away from the prison they felt it with.
Yeah ita like, you got a sex friend, why stop it artificially?
Got yourself a gusher, eh?
🤣 I swear, my double-entendre was completely unintentional. Thank you Internet stranger for the solid laugh!