Come on, Barbie, let’s go party.

Good. Fuck off, Kim Davis.

Roz could get it

It’s a problem when people just generate the code, see if it runs, maybe test it once or twice, and… That’s it.

Same issue with people blindly copying Stack Overflow and other code snippets on the web.

Like you say, the value we bring is in our review and understanding of the code, as well as our ability to make judgements on things like architecture.

My area was full of trick or treaters. I saw more homemade costumes. Had some teens in the spirit, lots of adults, too. My kid got to hang out with some friends and trick or treat.

However, I didn’t dress up this year. Too much to do. My daughter’s costume was all stuff we already had. Didn’t decorate because, again, too much to do.

They do tend to mess up my order, but they are at least super chill and nice when I kindly ask them to fix it.

Man, I am crushed by how badly my local Qdoba prepares their proteins. It’s not like that at other Qdobas.

Ah, so they can show off their boo-bs.

It sounds like you are struggling with how your parents and the rest of your family treat you.

Does it make it better or worse if you were indeed their child?

In my mind, blood means nothing. Blood might be your starting place, but you can choose to keep who you want at any time. I only associate with people that do not mistreat me. I was NC with my dad until he died. He treated me like shit, so one day I refused to give him the time of day.

My ex was also horribly abusive to me. When I decided “no more,” he got no special treatment from me either. I got a restraining order against him, like I would for anyone that would try to physically harm me.

Holding on to the past and keeping score isn’t helpful for you. It’s ok to remember it as the reason why you wouldn’t talk to them (or gray rock if you must still associate), but to wish the score was settled? It is a burden on you. Treat yourself with the dignity you deserve, let it go, and heal.

It is not easy, but you are worth this work.

I realize that you see things that planted this seed in your head. I am telling you, that is not really the root of your issue.

What does matter? The people that you do choose. The things YOU decide are important.

Believe me, I know this. I have been mistreated for my childhood and early adulthood. I always wondered what I did to deserve it. Truth of the matter is, I was never likely to find the answer. I could spend a whole lifetime wondering, and for what? I just chalked it up to other people sucking. The way they treated me isn’t a reflection of me, it speaks more to their own shortcomings. I still get mad at how they treated me sometimes, it’s not perfect. But it has made my life a whole lot happier when I let this go. It’s time for you, too.

Unless you decide to independently verify everything you interact with, there is a certain amount of faith that one needs to keep to live day-to-day. I’m not talking about religion.

If I hold a rock in my hand and think it’s a very old rock, but instead it was just a piece of concrete, does it matter?

To you, am I just a bot or am I a person very far away from you talking to you over the Fediverse? Does it matter?

Is the sun really there, or is it an elaborate hoax? Observing the sun and moving on is enough. Does it matter?

What does matter to you? If you ask me, you should care about a few things. Your own wellbeing. The wellbeing of your community. Your friends. The things that bring you any joy. (And if you have none, then if you work on your own wellbeing, you will be able to find joy after a certain point.)

What if you weren’t biologically your parents’ child, but they weren’t aware of that fact, either? Like you got swapped at the hospital? What would that change for you?

Him: “do you enjoy your job?”

Me: “eh, it’s alright. I don’t hate it.”

Him: “you should enjoy it”

Me: shrug “ok”

No need to really engage. No need to give a lot of details. If he pushes just kind of blow him off.

I sometimes get miffed by people that are more privileged than me telling me I should take it easy like them, when that is not an option for me. I remind myself that they just don’t get it and move on.

It’s… It’s beautiful. wipes away tear

Honestly, I’d be pretty aggressive too if I had hepatitis, herpes, and COVID and was just involved in a crash.

It’s Jigglypuff, from above!

Wait what the fuck I forgot that was him.

Naw fuck him.

Sure, but the original issue was a comment and a personal choice in choosing media. Making an official retraction and appearing to try to educate people is an appropriate response to this.

If this was penance for a larger transgression, like funding an anti-LGBTQ cause, yeah this wouldn’t be enough.

Chances are, we will never know his intentions. If you ask me, I really don’t care about Snoop Dogg. However, I know a lot of people look up to celebrities like Snoop Dogg and would take his example to heart. In a sea of poor examples of behavior, I really like this.

Ah, yes, I forgot. I’ll get my pitchfork.

I mean, I like that he very publicly walked back his homophobic remarks and tried to make amends. A lot of people look up to celebrities, so when they show people a good example, I am for it.

Especially since he worked with a queer organization to show that homosexuals are just regular people for an audience of children, this feels more than just an empty apology.

Oh man, I haven’t had Burgerville in nearly a decade and a half. Bummer.

GFS scratches a little of that itch for me.