Girls want guys who are happy on their own first. Nobody wants to be responsible for someone else’s entire happiness.

That’s why they tell you to get a hobby with a community, it’s to be happy on your own. It isn’t so you can meet girls who like the same things you do (although that can happen), it’s so that girls can be attracted to the fact that you go get what you want and enjoy your life.

It’s hard if you’re depressed and it feels pointless at first. Do it anyway, and don’t do it to meet women. Do it to be happier.

When you drop the bitterness of being an incel and fill your life with friends and hobbies, you’ll immediately become more attractive.

The way I look at it is, the more echo chambers you are in and out of, the more complete of a picture you can get as a whole.

Yes, Lemmy is a certain kind of echo chamber. But you can’t really be part of an online community these days that doesn’t tend toward becoming one.

You just have to diversify to keep the thread. And Lemmy is a very important part of that diversification for me.