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Cake day: August 13th, 2023

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  • I’m pretty firmly against, because to really call on bodily autonomy rights, you need to be able to make a reasonably informed, rational, and non-coerced decision. For the impact that death has, I don’t think you can make that decision. Both because of the standard that you need to hold when death is the consequence, and because usually when someone is considering suicide they’re not in a rational state of mind. I’ve been through depression and I had some suicidal thoughts, but looking at them in hindsight, I was not fairly considering things at all. Sure, my life was far from perfect, but it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as it felt at the time.

    the only person I’ll ever hurt is myself

    That’s just not true. Unless you live as a full on urban hermit, never interacting with anyone, you have people around you. And those people care about you more than you’d think.





  • There’s definitely potential here. What genre are you thinking? I can see a coop horror game here similar to lethal company or a survival game with horror elements like subnautica.

    Also, you could lean into the strength of game story telling and use pieces of recordings scattered around the world instead of necessarily ghosts. Imagine if you act like it’s an alien planet in all the previews, then drop hints throughout the game to show the planet is actually earth.




  • Honestly I kinda stumbled into my specific career. I’ve known I enjoy working with computers for a while, so I took digital tech class all through high school. I went to uni thinking I’d do mechatronics engineering, but that needs chemistry so fuck that. I then switched to software engineering, but then I saw the timetable of some second year engineering friends I had, then said fuck that. Then I switched to computer science for the next year, planning to go into researching ai (this was in 2020, don’t judge too hard), but dropped out for my mental health. Then a family friend at my church offered me a position doing automation/efficiency programming, which was better than the pool attendant job I had at the time. I’ve been there since.

    Also, if you’re not sure what to do, don’t feel guilty about taking a gap year. Take that year, earn some money, figure out what you enjoy doing. And don’t feel like you have to go to uni. Polytech and trades are just as good as uni.



  • Non stick: alright for eggs and other relatively low temperature stuff. Make sure you only use rubber, plastic, or other soft utensils, and never clean it with a scraper or steel wool. The surface of the non stick is fine as far as I know, but if you go deeper by getting too hot or scraping with something too hard, you can expose the toxic chemicals.

    Stainless: my go to. Use whatever utensils you want, and clean it however you want. The main thing to make it non stick is heat the pan up hot enough that when you splash a bit of water on it, it beads up and scatters. Then use plenty of oil. The main downside is you usually can’t put them in the oven.

    Cast iron: better in use than stainless, but harder to clean. Upside is you can use whatever with them, and you can swap between oven and stove. Downside is you can’t clean them the same way as anything else.




  • I get that, but this wasn’t really a “look at the opportunities I’ve missed”, it was more of “huh, my life could have been completely different by now”. I like my job, I like my social life, and I have an amazing fiance that I’m marrying in less than 2 months. I don’t know what would be on my other paths, but I’m glad I chose this one.

    There are some I’m glad i didn’t take. I started a degree in computer science in 2020, and I had plans to focus on machine learning research. If I hadn’t dropped it at the end of that year, I’d likely have finished my degree right at the start of the chat gpt shitshow.







  • It’s basically impossible to say without knowing the two of you much better than is possible in a post like this. I know 16 year olds who know enough about life and have a good enough relationship that I’d be confident they could have a healthy marriage, and I know 30 year olds who shouldn’t be going anywhere near proposing. At 20/18, yes, you’re young, but it’s definitely possible for you to be mature enough.

    Things to think about:

    • are both of your parents still together? Not saying it can’t work if they aren’t, but it does help the odds
    • have you fought over anything before? If so, was it something major, and how did you resolve it?
    • how well do you handle being bored together? You’ll spend the rest of your life together, and not every moment is entertaining

    This is some of the advice that me and my fiance (both 24) got from our parents and church community

    Edit: I should say, if you go for it, do some pre marriage counseling. There’s probably a lot of things you don’t know about married life, and it’s best to find an older couple that you know and trust to tell you about those things.