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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • Okay the first step in being able to get control and stop crying is to stop being embarrassed about crying. Because that added level of feeling makes the crying worse. So what if the power of your truth brings tears to your eyes? If they mock you it’s because they’re trying to distract from the fact they’re in the wrong. Ignore and continue.

    What you don’t want is to whine or sob. So forget your eyes, concentrate on your voice. Deliberately pitch it a little low, it prevents squeaking. And use enough volume to be heard but don’t shout, you want to sound in control.

    The other thing you don’t want to do is to snivel or have to deal with snot. So don’t keep your eyes wide trying to keep the tears from dripping, because that will just send the water down those tubes into your nose, and you’ll have a real mess plus you’ll be hard to understand. Deliberately blink and let them fall, or better yet dab with a tissue that you remembered to bring! (You don’t want to be like I once was, stuck with nothing absorbent in my purse but my toddler’s spare pair of clean underpants!)

    All the while, concentrate on calmly stating the thing that’s so important to say. Chin up, keep eye contact, don’t let a few drops of water distract you. And you’ll find it gets easier with practice, so practice. Practice logical sentences that make your points, and practice returning to your point despite distractions or arguments from them.

    If you wear makeup, try that out too, you don’t want anything that runs!

    Being well prepared in case you do start to cry is the best way to minimize it, even if it doesn’t 100% prevent it.








  • “Utah Valley University spokeswoman Ellen Treanor has confirmed to the New York Times that Charlie Kirk was struck by a gunman positioned in the Losee Center, a building approximately 200 yards from the event site.”

    Unlike Mr.Kirk, I’m in favor of much stronger gun control, but that was quite an accurate shot, harmed nobody else, and well timed for context. Unlike the idiots trying to shoot Trump and either killing another person or not even getting a shot off