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Cake day: August 9th, 2023

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  • I haven’t finished this one yet, do we’ll see.

    I’m guessing you mean the first trilogy (apologies if I’m mistaken), as the First Law universe continues for 6 more books after that (plus a collection of short stories). After the Last Argument of Kings, there are 3 “stand alone” novels, which are the strongest, in my opinion, and then a second trilogy, which is excellent.

    I believe there are more books planned for that universe, but The Devils is separate. The others I haven’t read as they’re Young Adult, so they probably have cheerier endings.

    Were you to read on, you’d probably find some joy for characters you like, but I think unhappy endings outweigh the happy ones. Of course, I could be mistaken and you’ve read all 9, because the ending of the last can definitely be described as devastating too!














  • I know people think they are being really helpful when they make suggestions, but I wish they would take a step back and ask first.

    I have lived with chronic fatigue for 18 years, and pain longer than that. My hair loss started over 20 years ago, and I can’t conceive of what it’s like to not wake several times a night, or to feel refreshed in the morning. Whatever they’re going to say, I’ve likely tried it, or researched it, or it’s obvious pseudo science that doesn’t merit research.

    It would be one thing if people had knowledge or expertise, but every time it’s something they’ve seen on Facebook, or something they think helped them with a very minor short-term issue.

    Sometimes I’m more forgiving because people don’t know my story, but when they know this has been almost my entire adult life, and they tell me to buy a supplement or look into grounding mats (seriously), it really annoys me.

    This isn’t about health professionals looking at my case and running tests or trying new treatments. It’s the people who see me at breaking point and ask if I’ve tried a pillow spray.


  • Yep. There is an expectation from others that you have to constantly “perform” disability in order for it to be valid.

    I can’t just not do things; they need doing. Sometimes those things are incredibly active, but I know I’ll pay for those later with a migraine or something else incapacitating. People don’t see that, or the calculations I have to make, they just see the active part.

    Also, no amount of rest leads to recovery or feeling replenished, so it doesn’t make sense to me to neglect activity just to lie there in pain anyway.