32m here with no success with the opposite gender. Feels like my time of finding someone has gone past its chances. If I ever and I mine EVER find someone, how would I find the keys to her heart? How does one get out of their comfort zone with extreme anxiety and agoraphobia of public places? Yes I have had one on one therapy with a counselor but have gone like 2 weeks without seeing one. Currently not working and been that way for like a year now. Hopefully I can get out of this deep hole I’m in as I’m in a terrible rut right now.
If you can’t be happy with yourself then how will you ever be happy with somebody else? And how could you expect them to be able and want to hold you up?
Work on yourself. Continue therapy. Push yourself out of your anxiety+agoraphobia comfort zone. Find a hobby that gets you out of the house and interacting with people. Doesn’t matter what it is as long as you enjoy it. The happier you are, the more likely you’ll find new friends and potential SOs. Next time a voice in your head tells you that you can’t do something say “FUCK YOU” and do it anyway. Realize that failures are just stepping stones; don’t dwell on them-- learn from them and move on. Whatever you do, don’t give into doubt. Don’t doubt yourself. Keep fighting for the future you want to have. And eventually, someday, you’ll get there.