That’s actually why I suspect my mum is neurodiverse - because initially I did suspect I was, and websearched the conditions. But then as I looked at them, my reaction was mostly “I don’t do this… wait, that’s her”*, and the only criteria that applied to me also applied to her. Then some time later, as I was treating my depression, I asked the psychiatrist about the possibility I was in the autism spectrum; he said “don’t worry, you’re clearly not”.

*not keeping eye contact; not noticing when others are hurt or upset; not responding to her name; failure to understand simple questions (NGL, this drives everyone around her crazy); struggling to even get if the question is directed towards her or someone else, etc. They aren’t age-related issues because a lot of them were already present across my childhood, or relate to things my grandma mentioned about her childhood. She also has a hard time with implicatures; I never saw this being listed as a condition, but I do suspect it’s a common issue among autists.

When did we stop saying neurodivergent? I did not get the memo.