Well, I didn’t say it is in this case but could be. Also you never know if the person has Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) or how someone copes with such negative experiences that could affect their memory of it, a lot of factors could be at play but good on you for clearing up it was just a misunderstanding of what you said, your first reaction (and how it was paraphrased) seemed to imply you meant to minimize the aggresors faulf hence why my reaction was that and probably those downvoting it