It’s a hard fact of life that friendship compatibility isn’t a transitive property. I lament that differing people I like to hang out with, likely wouldn’t wanna hang out with each other.
And then I’m like “How the heck do friend groups get started then?!” Lol
I had a friend group in college. It was awesome. Then we graduated and never saw eachother again. Primarily because we were the only remaining CS students in our year.
Me in highschool. Man I thought I’d have those friends forever. It was really cool how socializing wasn’t so high-stakes back then. I kinda knew everybody of all sorts there, and could hold a conversation with almost anyone.
Once I had to move away to the middle of nowhere after graduation, and they got jobs and stuff, I was left with one (1) single friend that actively sought to catch up with me regularly. He earned the top spot of “best friend.”
The rest just forgot I existed because I decided to drop Facebook. (And I provided alternative methods to reach me.) My once best pal would usually respond to “How’s it going man? :D” with “Work.” That’s it.
I realize one of the biggest fantasies we see through our screens and on our pages is a group of fellows with unbreakable bonds. From sitcoms to superheroes, and now even tabletop gaming, I think we all just want a group we can struggle and rejoice together with, and that’s become such a coveted grail of a thing.
But the world is designed to isolate and busy and fatigue us as adults, and everything has gotten so socially tense and high stakes it’s hard to form anything with new people beyond mere acquaintanceship, because you can never be sure who people really are anymore.
Lol sorry I didn’t mean to get all deep there lol…
Username checks out so hard LOL.
It’s a hard fact of life that friendship compatibility isn’t a transitive property. I lament that differing people I like to hang out with, likely wouldn’t wanna hang out with each other.
And then I’m like “How the heck do friend groups get started then?!” Lol
I had a friend group in college. It was awesome. Then we graduated and never saw eachother again. Primarily because we were the only remaining CS students in our year.
Me in highschool. Man I thought I’d have those friends forever. It was really cool how socializing wasn’t so high-stakes back then. I kinda knew everybody of all sorts there, and could hold a conversation with almost anyone.
Once I had to move away to the middle of nowhere after graduation, and they got jobs and stuff, I was left with one (1) single friend that actively sought to catch up with me regularly. He earned the top spot of “best friend.”
The rest just forgot I existed because I decided to drop Facebook. (And I provided alternative methods to reach me.) My once best pal would usually respond to “How’s it going man? :D” with “Work.” That’s it.
I realize one of the biggest fantasies we see through our screens and on our pages is a group of fellows with unbreakable bonds. From sitcoms to superheroes, and now even tabletop gaming, I think we all just want a group we can struggle and rejoice together with, and that’s become such a coveted grail of a thing.
But the world is designed to isolate and busy and fatigue us as adults, and everything has gotten so socially tense and high stakes it’s hard to form anything with new people beyond mere acquaintanceship, because you can never be sure who people really are anymore.
Lol sorry I didn’t mean to get all deep there lol…