• ameancow@lemmy.world
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    The qualifiers give people a bridge to escape, a way to say “No, that’s not me, I know my situation and my feelings, and despite being sad like 90% of the time, in this once instance I am the exception to the rule and don’t have to do shit to feel better.”

    So yah, I rather make people mad and get them to reply “whaa that’s not me, you don’t know what you’re talking about” because that is action, that is something that forces people to think about why the message makes them mad, and if they get hit with that enough, they often think about it more and can change. The fervor to pile on and say “you don’t understand me” just tells me it’s working. Because it takes an almost subconscious obtuse rejection of a broad, not-targeted message to lash out at it. We need to understand this behavior in ourselves as well.

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      I’m glad you worked and improved yourself, but quit trying to “fix” other people. I’m not even mad as you assume. But it baffles me that you don’t understad that not everyone that labels themselves as one thing you don’t agree on is “fucked up”.

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        quit trying to “fix” other people.

        I’m offering a rope, many people have taken it and have thanked me. So no, I have no intention of stopping.

        You don’t have to touch the rope, you don’t have to even look at it.

        But for some reason you are here looking at it scorning it, and you interpret the fact that the rope exists for some people as an implication that anyone who doesn’t reach out for it is “fucked up," which I have never remotely suggested, that came from inside you, my only implication is that you have a greater capacity for change and elasticity in your brain than labels are letting you believe. You do with that what you will.

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          Then please reframe your approach, accept that introverts exist and stop invalidating us. You say “There’s no such thing as introverts” and that’s not the way to go about offering help, it’s harmful, you generalize and I’m not the only one that interpreted it that way.
          That’s what I’m trying to get across.