I am monogamous through experience. Early in my relationship with my wife we explored various forms of non-monogamy. I can’t swing. I need an emotional connection before I can bring myself to be sexual with another person. I had two girlfriends, and for the most part I was only comfortable having sex with them in the context of a three-way, while my wife is straight. She likes other women’s bodies, but doesn’t have a desire to go further than touching their boobs or having a BDSM scene.

She only had one person she was interested in sex with. I was supportive but also didn’t like waiting at home while she went off. Never went further than a handjob because he wasn’t comfortable with the scene.

We gave it a shot and I’m not interested in pursuing non-monogamy. I’d still let her have a shot, but she’s into perimenopause and I don’t think she is into sex much any more. My dick has always been unreliable and it has gotten even moreso in my fifties.

I do sometimes wish I had someone to go out with because my wife doesn’t want to really go anywhere or do anything unless it involves getting drunk and country music. But I’m also kinda autistic and my ability to communicate my mind without hurting someone’s feelings is limited. So I just… deal. My life is pretty good even if I dream of something more it’s probably not realistic and definitely not worth risking rushing what I have.

“I’m old enough to have a drivers license. I can see how that might be confused for ‘ugly’ by someone like you.”

Respectfully, I would suggest that drama within a subreddit is perhaps too niche for /technology. At least without any explainer as to why this is of broader interest. I’m not clicking through to find out because IDGAF about what’s going on with random subreddits.

Maybe the community at large feels differently.

Agreed but at some point I am forced to work “at gunpoint” because I have a wife and kids who need a house and food and cars. I’m jealous of anyone in a position to simply quit.

I work for a company that works for another company in the hospitality industry. The software system is being updated (in part of a much broader system change) to no longer allow non-binary or unspecified gender. We aren’t writing that part, but have to support it. I consider it a shortsighted and cruel change. But I’ve also spent a 7 of the last 30 months looking for work. I’m over fifty and I’m currently trying to build my retirement savings back up from zero after that.

I’m not walking away just because of this change. Instead I’m making sure our software is easy to change back when world is ready for that once again. That’s the best I can do, and I’ve worked for companies engaged in much greater evil.

When I got hired on a contract for Uline I’d never heard of them. Then I found out that are huge contributors to the Republican Party and I was glad when they decided to replace me on that contract, but I couldn’t just walk away. That was the most morally conflicted I’ve ever been at a job. But it gave my family the means to thrive, and that is my first goal.

Bill Gates is a bad example. That motherfucker was the most evil corporate asshole in the 90’s. He has rehabilitated his image, but net positive is a bridge too far.

As for the rest, I appreciate the nuance. But Bill Gates can go fuck himself. It’s easy to be generous with money stolen from somewhere else.

You don’t just get over a thing like that. But petting their head and calling them a good boy probably helps.

And weirdest.

After the recent election? You can kiss that fucking money goodbye. Have fun losing big.

He is completely fucking annoying, and I have refused to watch him in anything else, but somehow Ruby Rhod just works for me. With all the ridiculous stuff in that movie, he feels right at home.

“You should follow your oath and refuse illegal orders.”

“NOooooo! Treason!!!”

The is the end result of living in a country where some people are operating under “alternative facts.”

I haven’t progressed my learning that far. I’ll look into it further, thanks!

Guarantee my fifteen year old would run a random curl with sudo if it purported to install Sims mods. And one might say, “then don’t give her sudo,” but you have no idea how often I’d have to run to the basement to type in a password onto her computer, if it’s anything like Windows. (Haven’t moved her to Linux yet, but it’s coming.)

We definitely cannot rely on the technical savvy of Linux users any more. At least, I can’t.

My team gets a lot of stuff done per quickly and reliably. They are probably better developers than I ever was. I don’t need to know how they spend minute by minute.

You can disagree, but I find it helpful to decide whether I’m going to read a lengthy article or not. Also if AI picks up on a bunch of biased phrasing or any of a dozen other signs of poor journalism, I can go into reading something (if I even bother to at that point) with an eye toward the problems in an article. Sometimes that helps when an article is trying to lead you down a certain path of thinking.

I find I’m better at picking out the facts from the bias if I’m forewarned.

Not OP, but…

It’s not always perfect, but it’s good for getting a tldr to see if maybe something is worth reading further. As for translations, it’s something AI is rather decent at. And if I go from understanding 0% to 95%, really only missing some cultural context about why a certain phrase might mean something different from face value, that’s a win.

You can do a lot with AI where the cost of it not being exactly right is essentially zero. Plus, it’s not like humans have a great track record for accuracy, come to think of it. It comes down to being skeptical about it like you would any other source.

I guess it’s great advice if you live in New York or Disney World. I have a forty minute walk to the nearest bus stop and depending on where I want to go in town and how many transfers it takes, it might take me 2 hours to get somewhere in my mid-side town.

Meanwhile, I can reach anywhere in town in twenty minutes by car, and I can carry $800 of groceries in my trunk. And I don’t freeze my ass off in the snow.

Trump called her big donors and told them to cut her off. They told her she was out. She resigned rather than lose.

The mainstream right is primarily center-leaning folks who believe in traditional Republican talking points and don’t really examine the underlying racism. For example, they believe welfare moms are a problem. They consider spending money on the arts wasteful and regulations to be anti-business. They believe in aggressive America-first foreign policy.

Many of them just want to exist in a world where they can do what they want and most everyone is basically like them.

Overtly anti-queer conservatives are the evangelicals, the “moral majority”, and are a significant but niche faction. And then obviously you have white supremacists who are even more niche. But the mainstream tolerates both because a world where they don’t ever have to feel uncomfortable around people whose speech they can’t understand or men kissing is fine with them. They don’t hate minorities, but they just don’t really care about them either. Mostly they think themselves good people and everyone should strive to be just like them.

That all being said, I think the growing rift between the left and the right is radicalizing some of the mainstream, due to vocal extremists driving the conversation and politicians trying to stay relevant in online discussions. To the point where it wouldn’t surprise me if mainstream right isn’t the minority.

And I say all this knowing the question is probably rhetorical.

I will pitch in to pay for a statue of the guy. He deserves to be immortalized.

A Lemmy server is like Facebook if there were a hundred other Facebooks people could be on and connect to. There’s no reason for you all not to join the same server. People who care enough can move easily.

The only thing I’d say is bad is if you pick the wrong server and it shuts down because then everyone is forced to find a new server.