• Foni@lemmy.zipEnglish
    29·
    6 days ago

    friend? I do this at work all the time, half my day is dealing with the consequences of not responding on time.

    • chiliedogg@lemmy.world
      5·
      5 days ago

      I walked out of a 2-hr meeting Monday and on the way to my next meeting got confronted by a guy in the lobby for taking too long to schedule a meeting he had requested on Friday…

      • Sc00ter@lemmy.zip
        1·
        5 days ago

        I have people schedule meetings on the same day. I mostly am not at my computer. 2 - 3 check ins a day typically. Then they get mad when i dont show up to a meeting i never accepted.

        I also get people who apologize for a “late response” when its an hour later. Like wtf do these people expect

        • chiliedogg@lemmy.world
          1·
          5 days ago

          I work in a severely understaffed development department for a city. The entire city has fewer than a dozen employees, but we have MASSIVE residential houses (median new home over 5 million) thay are more complicated than most commercial developments. I coordinate all development, permitting, and inspections and am also the GIS departmentand web editor.

          I currently have 200 major development projects in some level of review (plus the houses that have been permitted but take 3-5 years to build), and every fucking one of them wants to talk to me for 30 minutes every week about their project.

          And then they bitch that my reviews take too long or that I’m hard to get on the phone.

  • Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.ukEnglish
    1·
    3 days ago

    I’m in a group chat with a bunch of friends I’ve known for years. One day I see a message pop up asking if anybody has seen or heard from me. I hadn’t messaged or spoke to any of them in over 6 months.

    It was nice to know I was thought of but trying to explain why I often don’t reply or join in was difficult.

  • Juice@midwest.social
    9·
    5 days ago

    Or:

    Let me respond to that text my friend sent me the other day looks at phone and it’s been 3 months

      • Sc00ter@lemmy.zip
        1·
        5 days ago

        I appreciate the notification my messages gives me sometimes. I forget the exact verbiage, but it brings it to the top of the list and says something like, “you got this 1 day ago. Did you mean to respond?”

        I will use that as a start to my text “hey my phone reminded me i didnt respond to this. So sorry!”

  • 9point6@lemmy.world
    41·
    6 days ago

    People know I’m often not timely with message responses

    If they’re not cool with that, they probably self selected out of being my friend

    • AskewLord@piefed.socialEnglish
      21·
      6 days ago

      it’s almost as if you should be friends with people who like you, and not friends with people who dislike you or whom you dislike.

      when someone complains about how awful their friends are/make them feel, i ask them why they are friends then, and they usually tell me to go fuck myself. i don’t think i’ve ever dated a woman who actually liked her friends, so much as hated them and just wanted them to be jealous of her.

  • InvalidName2@lemmy.zip
    2·
    5 days ago

    Yes-ish. But for the record, I don’t regard that as making me a horrible friend, as I do tend to go all out when I have the energy for it. Plus, I might not respond in a timely fashion to a picture of a plate of food from the dinner at Chez Broulez, but if my friends know if their car broke down in the middle of nowhere or they need someone to feed their dog b/c they had an emergency come up, that I’d be right over as soon as possible to help.